What do you hate??

Also, the word 'amazing' was the only word it ever seemed she was capable of using to describe me. It used to make me wonder whether she had any positive thoughts about me at all, if that was the only word she could come up with. I guess I still do wonder that sometimes!

The other was that she said on at least 4 separate occasions that “it is not your child’s job to make you feel like a good parent.” Each time she delivered it like it was some grand piece of wisdom. And each time I experienced it as condescending and judgemental. Like really, what she’d taken from an entire anecdote about me being ready to tear my hair out over some seeming nightmare with my kid boiled down to me feeing narcissistically slighted over his failure to validate me? And I never told her to STFU because I didn’t want to be defensive and wanted to remain open to the possibility that maybe I was using him to validate me? Because obviously I don’t want to do that to my kids..

If I don’t know gender of a dog I’d use “she” in one of my languages and “he” in the other and I am not sure what’d I’d say in English if i didn’t know the gender. Probably “he” because the word “dog” sounds masculine to me.

Honestly none of that is that deep, it’s a language construct/complex grammar rather than deep concept of respecting animals.

What I hate is the random drama from countertransference played out on my most sensitive emotions while trying to open up about these things.

What I hate is the random drama from countertransference played out on my most sensitive emotions while trying to open up about these things.