[ArtieTheSequal]

Well, here it is Friday again, now 10 weeks since I said goodbye to L, and as of last night I still wanted to call her today to check in. But, once again, on my day off work when I might have, I don't want to anymore. It's even become like I can't let myself. I'm working with it though and starting to understand that it has something to do with my deeply embedded trust issues that therapy really only scratched the surface of but didn't come close to resolving. I think this is something I have to work with inside myself and no one outside of myself (like L) is going to resolve it for me.

So, I'm going back to working with the TED Triangle stuff - The Empowerment Dynamic, that I found that book about back in September, the antidote to the Karpman Drama Triangle. I'm reading the book again and getting excited about it all over again and just today learned that there's a new book coming out in early March about it that of course I pre-ordered. I've begun to understand that my trust issues are part of what kept me on the drama triangle - because I've really never had much trust in myself either. And this decision to play on the TED triangle instead of the DDT (dreaded drama triangle) is one that I have to make EVERY SINGLE DAY when I wake up in the morning and several times every day too maybe, to make sure I stay on it, trust myself in the Creator role (instead of falling back into the Victim role on the DDT).

Not sure what I'm wanting out of this post other than putting my intention out there in the world or something maybe? To anyone who got this far thanks for reading.

[Yaowen]

Thanks for sharing that. I don't know much about TED Triangle so I will do some research. Sounds like it can be really helpful. Thanks again!

[SlumberKitty]

Thanks Artie. I have never heard of the TED triangle but I have heard of the drama triangle in IOP. I hope you can learn a lot from the books. HUGS Kit

[Rive.]

You were the one who inspired me to check out the TED book when you mentioned it a while back

[Lemoncake]

Artie this might be random, but it was the first thing that came up for me reading your post. Maybe you could also try to work on your core beliefs too: