Using a therapist for mediation

In the course of a one-on-one meeting on another subject entirely, my chair volunteered that he thought the whole situation with my colleague was just “a personal conflict.” So nothing to do with disability.

I was already feeling like the whole thing is my fault for having a need for accessibility in the first place.

The chair sounds like an idiot.

I’m resuscitating this because, even though this was almost a year ago, that mediation was a disaster, it still hurts enormously—especially as the chair/former friend is now permanent chair, and the colleague/former friend who started the whole thing acts like nothing happened, which means she acts like she did before, which means I miss her friendship.

I don’t really know what to do about it. Visa is not helping me move on, but I’m not sure any therapy would.

I'm sorry that you're still dealing with this. And that Visa isn't helping you move on (didn't know you were still seeing her), but like you said, maybe no therapist could. You were betrayed by friends and your place of employment, and you're still working there. "Moving on" suggests accepting it, and I don't think you should have to accept something like this.

Does Visa seem to think that you should move on? Or is that more coming from you? Or your employer?

Only seeing Visa intermittent,y.

When we do talk about it, Visa is almost as furious at the whole situation as I was. it’s my chair who thinks I need to move on.

The complaint that someone filed on my behalf is still pending.