[Christina86]

So I'm passive-agressive. I had an appt booked with T for two? or so weeks ago. I rescheduled. For the end of February. I was back at Health Services (I go through my university) and for some reason rescheduled... I was planning on asking the receptionist to just cancel my appt and not rebook. She's a friend and I can talk at her, so I told her I wasnt liking my T at the moment. She said, okay (jokingly) ... that she was going to book me into the next available spot. Instead she convinced me to at least "fire him" in person... so I have an appt at 11am on Monday.

Help. I dont know what to say, I dont know what to do... I dont know what my problem is with him either as a T... just that we dont seem to connect and that his ideas are stupid and that he talks more than me sometimes and that he just doesnt seem to "get me" anymore... I gave him two sessions... isnt that enough time for him to change back to the way he was in December?

... I'm confused. Conflicted. Hurt. Scared.

[chaotic13]

Most sources suggest that ending therapy should be done face to face. Not sure exactly why, but enough credible sources say this so there is likely good reasoning behind it.

How about saying what you mentioned above only as positively as possible: "I am concerned about how therapy is going for me. I just don't feel like I'm connecting well and I would like to discontinue at this point." You don't need to say anything about seeking someone else.

You not need to justify and explain everything. Your allow to have you feelings and decide not to continue. If it easier, simply say you are not interested in continuing therapy in general. If you are planning to try someone new at the same facility, wait a week or two, and then schedule with one of the other therapist. If he happens to see you in the waiting room, simply say "I reconsidered my decision to quit, but decide to make a totally fresh start "

Sounds simple :-) until you actually do it. Good luck!

[Perna]

Just talk about the lack of seeming connection (as opposed to his stupid suggestions :-) and tell him you're unsure. Work to make sure your impressions are correct and see what he has to say, how he feels. If he seems to talk too often, interrupt him :-) and point that out?

[bipolar_bear]

Can you talk to him about how you are feeling? That something has changed from December and you aren't sure what it is? Maybe that it is causing you to resent him (if it is) I know it is scary to confront things like this but it may be better to try and work through it than just give up. I know you will make the best choice for you.

BB

[Fuzzybear]

(((((((((((( Christina ))))))))))))

[Christina86]

thanks for the ideas everyone... I'll update again after the appt on Monday.