Couch 240: The Vanadis Couch

I have never told any of my friends I love them as it would not be comfortable to me. I would feel awkward if they said it to me. That doesn't mean I don't feel love for them though or believe I do love them in a platonic way...I dunno I've only ever said I love you to my husband, kids and more recently my mother and father. I have loving feelings for my T that if it was the therapy space felt more open and I felt she was open to receiving it I would likely be comfortable sharing.

Well, that tears it. We need Couch t-shirts that say “I STOPDOG”.

I don't love my cat. I feel sorry for him (he is old and a rescue cat with one eye who bumps into furniture all the time), but he is really annoying. I look after him and that annoys me too. I wish he could look after himself and didn't stare at me (in his one-eyed way), then I might feel more warmly towards him. Staring is not an endearing quality in any creature.

I love both of my cats and I still love and miss my angel Ebony.

Thanks for all the replies! It's interesting, the variation. Also, that you might feel the love, but not actually say it.

ack and good lord

She is still my supreme being - SB, SD, whats the diff?

Haha...probably a lot, in legal terms.

The shirts could say the first thing, followed by:
Stopdog: Ack. Good lord.

Not sure how to feel about today's therapy session. One of those times when I sort of wish Dr. T shared less about what was going on in his head. Though I do appreciate his "And we're good" when I was leaving. As in, reassurance about the relationship.

that would go on the back! haha!

So sorry, LT. You deserve to feel heard.

Thanks, Lost. I guess I felt heard, just...it became a lot about what was going on with him. In regard to something we'd talked about, not his outside life or something. And now I guess I feel that I need to manage his feelings, in a way. To reassure *him* instead of the other way around.

Absolutely. You're not meant to be a support to him - he's your therapist.
I hope you can get back on an even keel. Do you see him again this week?

It did not surprise me one bit that he doesn't tell his friends that he loves them.

I have one friend that I've known for a really long time and I've told him I love him and he says it back. Feels natural with him, but they'd have to be a really good friend for me to say that. I remember having to work on myself to be able to say it to my parents without feeling uncomfortable when I was a young adult. Not sure what that says about me.

Intrigued to hear what happened LT. Mainly because I often feel a need to share my feelings with my T and hope that they will be open and receptive to them. I know that they will listen and receive them without getting outwardly awkward but the fear is more about how they will receive it internally which I will never know about. I equate it somewhat to when someone in school that you don't like tells you they 'like you' and how outwardly you don't want to offend them so you smile and say thanks or something but inwardly you are might be recoiling a little bit or even find it a bit intrusive depending on how they say it or how many times. This is the story in my head of how my T will react. I know that is absolutely based on no truth or fact whatsoever but that's my go to story.

I'm certain pets understand the intention behind their human saying "i love you" to them

Thanks, willow. I mean, I don't know guinea pig--maybe some of their squeaks are "I love you, too" along with "OK, give us more food now!"

Thanks for your comment! I understand that feeling in your head. I'll message you.

Rip Christine McVie.

Yes, indeed. A terrible loss to the world, and to music.

I know "wheet wheet" translates to "I know you have the food and I wants it"

not sure about the other squeaks

hard to concentrate just now, Tigger cat's determined to "kill" a pen lid

Oh no, I hadn't heard that. May she RIP.

Hugs, LT. I'm sorry if he overshared and it was hurtful. But glad he reassured that all is good in the t relationship.

oh no! i hadn't heard that. I love her Songbird.