Couch 240: The Vanadis Couch

stopdog · Nov 30, 2022 at 11:12 AM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Well, that tears it. We need Couch t-shirts that say “I (blinky thing) STOPDOG”.

ack and good lord

unaluna · Nov 30, 2022 at 11:15 AM

She is still my supreme being - SB, SD, whats the diff?

LostOnTheTrail · Nov 30, 2022 at 11:18 AM

Haha...probably a lot, in legal terms.

LonesomeTonight · Nov 30, 2022 at 12:27 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

ack and good lord

The shirts could say the first thing, followed by:
Stopdog: Ack. Good lord.

LonesomeTonight · Nov 30, 2022 at 12:32 PM

Not sure how to feel about today's therapy session. One of those times when I sort of wish Dr. T shared less about what was going on in his head. Though I do appreciate his "And we're good" when I was leaving. As in, reassurance about the relationship.

ArtieTheSequal · Nov 30, 2022 at 01:04 PM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

The shirts could say the first thing, followed by:
Stopdog: Ack. Good lord.

that would go on the back! haha!

LostOnTheTrail · Nov 30, 2022 at 01:06 PM

So sorry, LT. You deserve to feel heard.

LonesomeTonight · Nov 30, 2022 at 01:15 PM

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Originally Posted by LostOnTheTrail

So sorry, LT. You deserve to feel heard.

Thanks, Lost. I guess I felt heard, just...it became a lot about what was going on with him. In regard to something we'd talked about, not his outside life or something. And now I guess I feel that I need to manage his feelings, in a way. To reassure *him* instead of the other way around.

LostOnTheTrail · Nov 30, 2022 at 01:29 PM

Absolutely. You're not meant to be a support to him - he's your therapist.
I hope you can get back on an even keel. Do you see him again this week?

NP_Complete · Nov 30, 2022 at 01:42 PM

It did not surprise me one bit that he doesn't tell his friends that he loves them.

I have one friend that I've known for a really long time and I've told him I love him and he says it back. Feels natural with him, but they'd have to be a really good friend for me to say that. I remember having to work on myself to be able to say it to my parents without feeling uncomfortable when I was a young adult. Not sure what that says about me.

smileygal · Nov 30, 2022 at 02:16 PM

Intrigued to hear what happened LT. Mainly because I often feel a need to share my feelings with my T and hope that they will be open and receptive to them. I know that they will listen and receive them without getting outwardly awkward but the fear is more about how they will receive it internally which I will never know about. I equate it somewhat to when someone in school that you don't like tells you they 'like you' and how outwardly you don't want to offend them so you smile and say thanks or something but inwardly you are might be recoiling a little bit or even find it a bit intrusive depending on how they say it or how many times. This is the story in my head of how my T will react. I know that is absolutely based on no truth or fact whatsoever but that's my go to story.

Nov 30, 2022 at 02:18 PM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Thanks for all the replies! It's interesting, the variation. Also, that you might feel the love, but not actually say it.

I'm certain pets understand the intention behind their human saying "i love you" to them

LonesomeTonight · Nov 30, 2022 at 02:55 PM

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Originally Posted by willowtigger

I'm certain pets understand the intention behind their human saying "i love you" to them

Thanks, willow. I mean, I don't know guinea pig--maybe some of their squeaks are "I love you, too" along with "OK, give us more food now!"

LonesomeTonight · Nov 30, 2022 at 03:01 PM

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Originally Posted by smileygal

Intrigued to hear what happened LT. Mainly because I often feel a need to share my feelings with my T and hope that they will be open and receptive to them. I know that they will listen and receive them without getting outwardly awkward but the fear is more about how they will receive it internally which I will never know about. I equate it somewhat to when someone in school that you don't like tells you they 'like you' and how outwardly you don't want to offend them so you smile and say thanks or something but inwardly you are might be recoiling a little bit or even find it a bit intrusive depending on how they say it or how many times. This is the story in my head of how my T will react. I know that is absolutely based on no truth or fact whatsoever but that's my go to story.

Thanks for your comment! I understand that feeling in your head. I'll message you.

stopdog · Nov 30, 2022 at 03:48 PM

Rip Christine McVie.

LostOnTheTrail · Nov 30, 2022 at 04:11 PM

Yes, indeed. A terrible loss to the world, and to music.

Nov 30, 2022 at 04:28 PM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Thanks, willow. I mean, I don't know guinea pig--maybe some of their squeaks are "I love you, too" along with "OK, give us more food now!"

I know "wheet wheet" translates to "I know you have the food and I wants it"

not sure about the other squeaks

hard to concentrate just now, Tigger cat's determined to "kill" a pen lid

LonesomeTonight · Nov 30, 2022 at 04:55 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

Rip Christine McVie.

Oh no, I hadn't heard that. May she RIP.

ArtieTheSequal · Nov 30, 2022 at 05:04 PM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Not sure how to feel about today's therapy session. One of those times when I sort of wish Dr. T shared less about what was going on in his head. Though I do appreciate his "And we're good" when I was leaving. As in, reassurance about the relationship.

Hugs, LT. I'm sorry if he overshared and it was hurtful. But glad he reassured that all is good in the t relationship.

ArtieTheSequal · Nov 30, 2022 at 05:05 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

Rip Christine McVie.

oh no! i hadn't heard that. I love her Songbird.

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unaluna Elder Harridan x-hankster Member Since Jun 2011 Location: Milan/Michigan Posts: 39,871 (SuperPoster!) 12 66.4k hugs given	Nov 30, 2022 at 11:15 AM #982 She is still my supreme being - SB, SD, whats the diff?

LonesomeTonight Always in This Twilight Member Since Feb 2015 Location: US Posts: 20,768 (SuperPoster!) 9 75k hugs given	Nov 30, 2022 at 12:32 PM #985 Not sure how to feel about today's therapy session. One of those times when I sort of wish Dr. T shared less about what was going on in his head. Though I do appreciate his "And we're good" when I was leaving. As in, reassurance about the relationship.

stopdog underdog is here Member Since Sep 2011 Location: blank Posts: 34,731 (SuperPoster!) 12 1 hugs given	Nov 30, 2022 at 03:48 PM #995 Rip Christine McVie. __________________ Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.