[sinking]

Today i quit quit with T.

i couldnt stand waiting 2 weeks inbetween sessions and preferred to quit.

she was the one making me feel better than anyone else but also worse than anyone else because of the waiting.

what do you think? is it normal? happened to you too?

and isnt it weird that now i feel ok with it, almost happy because i know i dont have to wait for sessions, texts or help anymore?

[Pinny]

I’m not sure if I understand your reasoning, especially as you say she was helping you feel better.
I wish you all the best though!

[Therapy reviewed]

Trying to take control. But in the end you lose.

[wheeler]

Were you able to talk to her about this? Two weeks in between sessions is hard.

[moodyblue83]

Maybe you should have stuck with her because where I live you have at least a months wait before you even get an appointment ! Then I find out they're only 1/2 hr. sessions ! I mean the resources for mental health are so scarce and yet that's all you hear about is how mental health is such a priority. Bull💩. Plus many providers won't even bother with insurance. Credit card or cash. Maybe there's a better place to get a therapist, if there is would somebody please tell me where !!
Waiting is part of the deal. If your lucky enough to find someone, don't let them go.

[sinking]

i could go back whenever i wanted, but 2 weeks in between is not negotiable.
this was making me feel worse than how much she was feeling me better.

[ElectricManatee]

I was restricted to every other week when I was in college for reasons outside my control, and it was tough. It just wasn't enough time to do the work I needed to do. At best it was basic stabilization all the time. I made a lot more lasting progress later on when I could go weekly or even twice a week if necessary.

[AnaWhitney]

I understand! I’ve only had to wait 2 weeks a handful of times but yes I found it hard! I used the time to be really prepared for my next session. I wouldn’t like it all the time though.
Why does it have to be every 2 weeks can I ask ?

[sinking]

She is a public psychologist, too many people to see...

[Brown Owl 2]

I can really identify with what you say. I’m not having therapy now, and it’s a relief not to have the kind of longing/ yearning feeling that I had between sessions. Is that the kind of thing you mean? I sometimes think of having more therapy, but I don’t want to go back to feeling that way.

[sinking]

YES, thats exactly what i meant.
Thank you for answering and making me feel less crazy and not alone.

[JaneTennison1]

For me, when I open up something I need to work on it and see it through. Every two weeks does not work for that and I would prefer not to open the wound at all than do a half hearted attempt that leaves me longing and ruminating and waiting. I feel like I understand what you are saying and I think I'd want to do the same too.

[Jesla]

I understand this really, really well.

I think when you have had a life where you have not been given enough - not enough love, attention, time, space, consideration, respect, nurturing - being given a little bit and then having to wait for more is a very precarious and unpleasant place to try and negotiate. I think it can feel cruel (even when that is not the intention) and the very nature and frame of therapy can threaten some re-enactment of painful dynamics. Far easier and safer to not have the thing at all than to try and be satisfied with being given a small piece which doesn't last and is not enough.