Couch 245: STELLA!

My deeply depressed sibling who hates being married to his wife but who doesn't have the guts to leave is finding exercise and being outdoors every day is helping his mental health and it is working so well he hasn't gone back on anti depression drugs- he is less depressed now that he has outdoor exercise in his daily routine

I really am not in a good mental capacity to be doing this appeal right now. I don't have anymore time tonight to do it. I still have to feed my girls, change their pee pads, shower, and take meds. I have no "me" time tonight let alone time to be gathering my thoughts to fight the insurance.

Artie - thanks! i cant believe that worked!

Last week or so, Shipt (a shopping app) sent out an email advising of a 15 pct off offer, with a link. Then the link said, "spend $15 and get back $100." I called their helpline, and the girl said no thats right. She even called me back and said she checked with corporate and that it was right. I was like, yeah okay and got off the phone. I could tell that she could tell i didnt believe her! Omg.

I called the helpline again and the guy said, oh yeah we are working on it. Then later in the week when i ordered on Shipt, the app was glitchy. It just amazes me how sloppy they are.

Art- you live in such a beautiful place. It is so different from where I live. I enjoy all of your outdoor pictures.

I finished the appeal. I pushed through it. Now I just need L and G to review it and then I can send it off. I felt guilty because both of them were up late working. I didn't want to seem like I wasn't putting forth my effort.

Good morning Couch!


The house I made an offer had one too many not-quite-right features and repairs so I decided to pass. I feel guilty because it looks like the seller was selling because she'd been recently divorced, and because the buyers of my recently former house were difficult so I know what an emotional ride it can be. Sigh. I do also know that feeling empathetic toward the seller's experience and not wanting my poor realtor to think I am waffly is not a reason to make a not-quite-right investment and passing was the right decision but still... Anyway, I just sent my realtor an email about a couple houses I'd like to see and realized the idea of continuing to house hunt makes me verrrrry tired. So cross your fingers and toes and elbows and such for me that maybe I can find the right one this time.


Also had a moment, because once the old house sold I did not need to play nice with the ex and it is so freeing. Not that I'm not nice but that I don't have to worry about appeasing him because I don't have to worry about him throwing a monkey wrench into any of the works I've got going on. Heh.

Bicycle guy and I have (I think) ironed out the things and are bicycling quite nicely, by the way. Heh.

Fuzz - its a revelation, isnt it? Not having to kowtow out of fear? Thats how i felt with the Shipt phone lady. It was just a fleeting glance of freedom for me, of clarity, but it was like a brilliant light flooded the room, and my heart. I DISAGREE! And im not gonna die because of it. Sheesh.

WFS: Sorry the house didn't work out, and I hope you can find a new one that makes you happy quickly and without too much stress. And glad things are going well with bicycle guy!

speaking of revelations... I kinda had one myself yesterday while I was walking. Y'know how I wasn't so thrilled with L's answer about how to let go "You just do!" I was mulling that over some more and it suddenly hit me that it's really that simple. "I just DO".

Not that I've ever really been the type of person to "just do" anything without a plethora of overthinking it first... but... yeah. A revelation. JUST DO.

Artie - many many many many moons ago, i too was on a walk, and i realized i did not want to say the word "divorce" to myself. It was an ugly word and i didnt want to hear it. I had a revulsion towards it. I remember exactly where i was walking on mich ave, on a cold sunny day.

Have i had the greatest life? Did all my dreams come true? Maybe not, but as the Chinese curse says, i did live in interesting times!

WFS—I get it on the house. And I was also convinced my realtor thought I was waffly. But she didn’t. They’re used to this.

All—tomorrow I go back to the neurotologist. Spare me some good thoughts late afternoon-ish. For either improvement (unlikely) or calm.

I’m actually taking a friend with me because I’m too nervous to go alone. This is something I never do, and if it were any other kind of doctor, I think I’d be okay alone…but apparently I am very sensitive about my ears.

Also, the neurotologist has signs up everywhere in the office, with images of a normal brain—“Brain without hearing loss”—next to a shrunken Alzheimer’s brain, labeled “Brain with hearing loss.” Which…biologically inaccurate, and also insulting and obnoxious. I guess it’s the new “deaf and dumb.”

Also - J. H. C. Pardon my french.

ATAT - good luck.

I am boggled at what the health care people do and say. My univ was giving out flu shots last week and the student nurse asked me "have you ever had a bad reaction from a flu shot like nausea, hives, death, or a large rash?" = If I was dead - why would I be here?

For reals?!

Yes - I am not exaggerating or making it up = word for word what she said. I thought we got second or third yr nursing students but I think maybe this time we got the ones who just started and are only 2 months in. Perhaps the univ feels about the law school the way we feel about it.

I'm a little concerned that a student nurse doesn't seem to grasp the finality of death.

Sending good thoughts to you @@. I 'm glad you have a friend who can go with you. And those posters sound very inappropriate.

@@, I am glad you have a friend to go with you.

Pocket riders too.

Sending you love @@.

I hope your appointment goes well.

Hugs, @@. Thinking of you, I hope the appointment goes/went well.