I have decided to quit therapy.... I have found that sharing a therapist.... with my son... really doesn't work... not private therapy.. if family therapy.. another matter... my son is a young adult..

The therapist we share is very good... but it just really isn't working out... when.. my son annouced that he was bring his ex g/f in with him... that ended it for me... my trust was gone...

So... I will get thru the worse of my eating disorder... and then quit.. in about a month..

It is a great loss for me... a huge loss.. as this T understands DID very well... however, the connection cannot be re-built... I have tried to work thru it... and... it is a loss cause..

For those of you.. who value your T... you know... what a blow.. this is to me....

If.. a person... could but turn back time... right???

[sunrise]

freewill, I'm sorry you are losing your T. Please allow yourself some space to mourn. This is a sad thing.

[ChipsAhoy]

yes i like to have my alone time with the therapist so i get attention

[(JD)]

I'm sorry you feel your T will not be able to advocate for you. This is sad indeed. Have you been able to discuss this privately with the T? Is there no way you can have your own time in therapy, whether with this T or a referred one?

(((((((great big hug))))))))))

My son... and I are very "private" people... and I don't "dive into his life.. and he doesn't "dive" into mine... respect.. I guess...

He.. did mention to me that he his ex g/f was going to join him.. in therapy..with him...

And.. after considerable thought... I want what is best for him.. and if this is what will help... then I want that for him too.. and I will continue to pay the co-pays.. he is 23.. with his own insurance..

I have my hour with the T... but.. when discussing it with my T... just felt.. "violated".... this ex-g/f... was very abusive to me... she.. has some severe problems.. which is why... she is an EX... but... they have known each other since pre-school... so also a very long friendship..

I guess.. I lost.. the "connective" feeling with my T... after that happenned.. and.. trying to re-build... hasn't worked...

I don't feel "safe"... in that office... and never will again....

Since my relationship with my T... is destroyed... it just makes sense for my son to continue... and for me.. to quit... rather than have my son transfer to someone else....

so... lots.. of mourning.. I guess..

Thank you everyone for your support... it is very much appreciated..

[Perna]

Your T much have "friends", know therapists with his interests and skills? That's how I got my good T was from my good group T "found" her for me.

[Kiya]

i don't understand why your T doesn't say NO! Have the son and gf find someone else. Your T is supposed to protect, care, work for YOU. If anyone is quitting, shouldn't it be them!?!