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#861
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You're right I do suffer when he gets sick. But I'm kind of approaching this as - as long as he doesn't start eating ice cream and potatoes every day again/stays away from fast food, and his routine liver enzyme tests keep coming back normal, I'm just keeping my mouth shut cuz he's like a kid - if I say anything, he'll be like "I'll show HER" and go out and buy ice cream. I suppose you'd say that ice cream is HIS trigger food - he can't stop once he starts and used to eat HUGE bowls of it every day. Last edited by ArtieTheSequal; Apr 06, 2024 at 01:19 PM.. |
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Artie, if he knows it's a trigger, could he possibly not bring it in the house? Maybe just buy a slice somewhere and eat it? I hate to ask this, but is it possible he's doing it intentionally, knowing it's a trigger? Maybe even subconsciously?
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And, thanks! It really helps being able to talk about the Reeses thing especially instead of keeping it a secret. |
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I live with someone who does eat differently than I do (cheese, sauces, some processed stuff I don't eat) - we have her fridge where she puts stuff that is hers alone - not because I am going to eat it or even want it -but due to her background -having her own control over that space and her own ability to choose what to eat if she doesn't like or want what I want to cook is super important to her.
I think even a small separate fridge might be something. I think both adults should be able to eat what they like in their own home. As long as someone is not trying to get me to eat something I have decided not to eat - no matter the reason - then they get to do so. I can no longer eat regular ice cream but maybe a tiny amount once or twice a year when I am feeling like living on the edge (stupid lactose and inflammation) but my partner can - so she does and I remind myself how horrible I usually feel after I eat more than 1 tbls or such. But she keeps it in her fridge. __________________ Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. |
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I can see not being happy that someone was sick of course, but if I suffered because of what someone else does to themselves - then that is on me - not them. And it would be my responsibility to hold a boundary on that if necessary __________________ Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. |
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Oh well now that artie explained - it sounds like her h has become woke! Seriously, im like artie, i would inhale one myself. But he is eating his cheesecake quite responsibly - thats mostly what i was fretting about, that he was in denial and it would rain down on artie. Codependence once removed? Or twice applied!
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It literally amazes me to watch him eat one little piece and then put his dish in the sink and be done. I'm like huh? You can do that? ![]() I am also completely in awe that it is still whole in the fridge, hours after bringing it home. Again, "you can do that?" ![]() ![]() |
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#868
Men! Can't live with them, and they can eat just one piece of cheesecake!
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Yeah, his dr told him that too, to make sure it's balanced out with protein and stuff. btw, can you believe it's 7pm here and he hasn't touched the cheesecake yet?! I think he's more broken than I already thought!! ![]() ![]() ![]() |
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#870
Don't mind me, I'm feeling pretty darn good tonight. I'm still almost in disbelief about how much better I feel getting the sugar outta my system. And I'd been going hog-wild on it too so my suger-fog was baaaaaad.
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Now that the weather is better my neighbours are in their garden. I initially thought it was cute they were spending time with friends. That was THREE hours ago. They also have an accordion and have been singing together on and off.
My place is on the ground floor right next to the garden. I’m trying not to be grumpy, but I have no other rooms to run away to where the noise would be less. 😂 Now that I’m older- I really dislike living so close to others. Two people above me. Landlord below me. Couple with the screaming kid on the left who I can hear through the wall. __________________ ![]() |
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I hope he taught your son, even though I am the proud owner of three pairs foam earplugs.
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My brother played. I played for a while, then my mother gave my accordion to my cousin, who later got his own accordion. No reason really, she just thought they were poor. They weren't. His sister got her own too. I was supposed to play my brothers gigantic man accordion, when i was in 3rd grade. I weighed 100 lbs, i was the 2nd tallest girl in class, but i could not handle the size, so i quit lessons. This is one of the reasons why i believed i fared better in life if i kept my distance from my mother.
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The staff (in my very limited experience and from conversational anecdotes from friends of a similar age and experience level) can be super helpful, answering questions and helping figure things out. Sometimes they even have an "honored citizen" discount. Heh. ETA: Ha ha ha- for kicks I looked it up and there is a Cannabis for Dummies on Amazon. __________________ Since you cannot do good to all, you are to pay special attention to those who, by accidents of time, or place, or circumstance, are brought into closer connection with you. (St. Augustine) |
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H's cousin plays bagpipes. I think he actually got a college scholarship partially based on his playing? Or at least that was a possibility. We saw him play a couple times, including once at some Celtic festival. That was enough really. I'm sure he's very good, just enough bagpipes. H's uncle also participated (not playing pipes, but some other role), so I got to see him in a kilt, which is...something I did not need to see. |
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Making you give up your instrument was wrong. It may have reinforced feelings of inadequacy or unworthiness. It makes sense you would take a protective stance of keeping your distance to avoid further hurt or disappointment. __________________ ![]() |
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This is where i always disagreed with my t's. I felt ignored, discarded, misunderstood - but not unworthy. I KNEW they disregarded my value - they often told stories about how women didn't matter. I could see the prejudice for what it was. It turned into a wall between me and the rest of the world. I snuck out best i could, but familial comforts are hard to give up, such as they are. |
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