[Mountaindewed]

To have your therapist call you "honey" and also say your glasses are "handsome"

I've dealt with this before with therapists and it is creepy as ****. But I know I'm not in the right frame of mind because of my physical issues so maybe I'm just reading too much into it. I've never had an issue with her before calling me stuff.

I do know she is cis and straight so shes not trying to come onto to me. Although I pass really well.

What do you think?

[VabGirl]

Hard to say but i dont think it would bother me.

[LonesomeTonight]

I think it depends. I (cis female, mostly hetero) think ex-T (cis-female, hetero) called me "honey" a couple times, but she's also my mom's age, so I think it was in a maternal sense. And it's how some people talk (like my late grandmother would call everyone "hon"). Actually, one time, my current T (cis-male, hetero) one time said, "I'm a lot older than you are, honey," and it bothered me, but more because, first, he's only 7 years older, and second, the "honey" felt patronizing. I called him out on it over email, and he apologized. He's never used that again.

The glasses being "handsome"--I'm not sure? I could definitely see that feeling weird (I assume the counter would be someone saying my glasses or shirt were "pretty"). My T has commented on clothing before, but it's been something like, "I like that shirt," or "Are those new shoes?" Nothing like, "That looks good on you" or "your new haircut looks pretty." It could be your T was trying to compliment your glasses and just came across awkwardly. If it bothers you though, I'd consider saying something.

[unaluna]

I think she is just overall saying your new haircut / look is cute / attractive.

[Jesla]

It would not bother me.

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by Mountaindewed

To have your therapist call you "honey" and also say your glasses are "handsome"

I've dealt with this before with therapists and it is creepy as ****. But I know I'm not in the right frame of mind because of my physical issues so maybe I'm just reading too much into it. I've never had an issue with her before calling me stuff.

I do know she is cis and straight so shes not trying to come onto to me. Although I pass really well.

What do you think?

It’s possible that you’re therapist the comment came out wrong unintentionally.