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Writing my way through...
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Really late start today - just a me day. The boyfriend is going to pick up his daughter at the hospital, so I am taking this time to focus on myself. Concerned about how my sleeping has been so I am going to try what you guys suggested and see. __________________ Tales of Love, Motivation, and An Interesting Journey - Please Subscribe to my Website on WordPress: Inspired Odyssey's Path to Wellness and Love |
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Always in This Twilight
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Hope you try something that helps with the sleep! I also struggle with insomnia, so I get how difficult it can be. |
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Child of a lesser god
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Location: Tartarus
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#264
Today is National Clerihew Day. Don’t know what a clerihew is? It is this:
Stopdog Couldn’t sleep cause of the grog, Said she, “Insomnia’s worse than so-called therapy.” The ice cream did not turn out well. I have vanilla flavored ice cubes with little frozen bits of chocolate. But it’s edible. __________________ Ich weiß nicht, was soll es bedeuten. Daß ich so traurig bin. “I do not know what this can mean. I am so very sad.” —Heinrich Heine |
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#265
What's the difference between a clerihew and a four line poem?
__________________ 'Somewhere up above the great divide Where the sky is wide, and the clouds are few A man can see his way clear to the light 'You have all the grace you need for today, and today is all that matters.' - Steve Austin |
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Child of a lesser god
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#266
Clerihews are about a famous person. First line is a name. And you have to work in their biography/what they’re famous for,
Abraham Lincoln Split the rails of a linden. Because his wife he adored Out they went to a theater named Ford. __________________ Ich weiß nicht, was soll es bedeuten. Daß ich so traurig bin. “I do not know what this can mean. I am so very sad.” —Heinrich Heine |
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Location: NJ
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#267
I was today years old when I learned this.
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Always in This Twilight
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#268
OK, I'm really struggling with Dr. T's "I need the money" comment right now.... This is clearly tying into something from my past, but I have no idea what. Maybe...feeling like I only have value if I can give someone something? Rather than intrinsically having value by being a human?
Yes, I'm aware the therapeutic relationship is different than other sorts of relationships. Just trying to figure out where this sudden intense reaction is coming from. |
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Always in This Twilight
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#269
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I'll do my best to not take on his problems and turn them into mine. I suppose I could see it as fodder for the memoir, perhaps. I have been writing more lately and actually discussed it a bit with him today. Maybe I can channel my energy into that. |
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#270
LT, what if has nothing to do with your past? Not everything links back to something. There can be new traumas that hurt in themselves.
What Dr. T said would really hurt me too. It's kind of objectifying your relationship? Just because you are a part of his job/career doesn't mean he should be viewing you as a meal ticket. You're a person and this is a real relationship. __________________ "Odium became your opium..." ~Epica |
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#271
It sounds like a flippant off-hand comment not meant to be taken to heart or all that seriously. It could be an opportunity to not obsess over something the therapist said. Don't give it another thought is my position.
__________________ Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. |
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Always in This Twilight
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#272
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Thanks, Scarlet--that's a really good point. I think of a few times that I was upset with ex-MC, and he said "This is about your parents," and I was like, "No, this is about you." Like, it wasn't transference, where I was projecting something from my parents onto him--I was actually angry at him. Felt like a cop-out on his part. (Meanwhile, Dr. T has done the opposite, where I've said it's about stuff from my past, and he insists it's about him.) It helps to know you'd be hurt by it, too. At first, I was mostly OK with it--especially because it was early in session, and the last 20 minutes were good (about other stuff, like my writing and also my progress)--and now it's suddenly hitting me. Which is how things happen sometimes (he calls it a therapy grenade). It's a case where I wish I could just talk to him for, say, 5 minutes. But it's not an option with him (I appreciate that L is willing to talk to you in that way). i can either email him, and he'll reply in the morning (somewhat risky, as there can be misunderstandings in tone), see if he has something tomorrow, or wait till Friday and hope it's mostly resolved then. I suppose the Friday one is the best option. |
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Always in This Twilight
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#273
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I understand what you're saying--thanks. He just seemed to really press the point, including exactly how much extra money he owed due to the move thing. But like that should be on him for deciding to take this on. For example, trusting that contractors will be done exactly when they say they will be. And not really leaving any sort of extra time in case things went wrong. I shouldn't be expected to pay for his financial mistakes. |
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Child of a lesser god
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#274
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You’d hate Visa. Five minutes or less after I’ve left her office, an email pops up with a receipt for that day’s session. I was a little taken aback at first, but now I laugh at it. __________________ Ich weiß nicht, was soll es bedeuten. Daß ich so traurig bin. “I do not know what this can mean. I am so very sad.” —Heinrich Heine |
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Poohbah
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#275
I don’t know LT. I think it’s just the way Dr. T is. I think he cares but he can just be very blunt with the reality of the situation. He makes money off of you and every other client. I mean I don’t love Dr. T. Sometimes he just has a way about him. But take my job for example. My job is very personal. I go into peoples home and take care of their children. I see their messy houses, their underwear laying out at times. Mom came walking downstairs last week wrapped in nothing but a bath towel fresh out of the shower because all her clean clothes were downstairs in the dryer and she had to get something to wear. I witness arguments between couples, I see where people sleep. But at the end of the day they provide me with the pay that I need in order to live. Taking care of those children is my meal ticket. It doesn’t necessarily mean when I walk into someone’s home and hug their children that all I see is dollar signs. You know? I care deeply for those kids but the reality is..it’s a job for which I get paid.
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Always in This Twilight
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#276
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I mean, I used to have to hand Dr. T a credit card at the end of session, then sign the slip of paper (he'd sort of fling a pen in my direction). He finally decided I didn't need to sign anymore. Then switched to IvyPay during the pandemic, so he just invoices me once a week. So I think the payment aspect is more detached now. Didn't realize you were still seeing Visa. Has she been helpful lately? Hope so. (Or were you just referring to seeing her in the past?) |
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#277
About once every month or two I am in Visa’s area and I see her then (it’s an hour drive now since I moved). And a few urgent sessions on zoom.
Does wonders for my bank account, seeing a therapist once a month or so. __________________ Ich weiß nicht, was soll es bedeuten. Daß ich so traurig bin. “I do not know what this can mean. I am so very sad.” —Heinrich Heine |
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Poohbah
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#278
I never realized how much money I spent on therapy until I terminated. It was like 30,000 bucks total over the years. If I would have saved that money…
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Always in This Twilight
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#279
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That helps to hear, Jersey. It can just be really complicated. I guess I need to remember this thing ex-MC said once that stuck with me, where I said, "You only care because I pay you to." He said, "You pay me to do my job, but you don't pay me to care." Like, he chose to care. I imagine it's like that for you. And, presumably, Dr. T. And, say, D's teachers. It may be harder for me to comprehend on a work level because I work with words rather than people. I mean, yeah, people wrote those words, but I don't deal with them directly (one of the positives of being a freelancer--I don't have to hear authors complain about the changes like I did when I worked more directly for the company). |
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#280
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I try not to think about it.... Thankful that H says he just considers it one of our set expenses (like the mortgage or car payment). We do get half back from insurance, or I'd have to go much less often. |
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