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Writing my way through...
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#581
So we were talking about it this morning and H doesn't want me not having a car, since he's gone so much on jobs. He said what if you have to go to the ER? I said, dude, if I'm sick enough to need to go to the ER, I wouldn't be ABLE to drive myself. I'd have to call an ambulance. If he insists I have a car, I'm trying to talk him into at least buying another junker. I mean, this current 'junker' lasted me 7 years! I don't care about cars, man. It just needs to get me from A to B and back. He wants a (used, thankfully) SUV.
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Always in This Twilight
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I do understand opting to talk about other stuff while she's virtual. I've done things like that before. Or, say, avoiding anything about the therapeutic relationship right before Dr. T goes on vacation. (Though I didn't follow that rule this time, and it worked out OK.) I'd see how you feel as you're doing the virtual work. Maybe it would be better to talk about it in a less safe environment than not talk about it at all? I'm not sure. I know for me it can vary, whether it's better to keep it in or not. I'm sorry you're struggling so much and that her timing is so awful. |
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#583
Lost, wanted to add that today was my next-to-last in-person session at the old office (seeing Dr. T there Sunday--he's moving Monday/Tuesday), and I was very much avoiding talking more about that today or my feelings around it. Part of me feels I've dealt with it, back when I originally thought he was moving a month ago and will be fine. But I'm also wondering if I'm going to totally fall apart either during session Sunday or just after.
I was talking about marriage stuff, which is important, especially in light of some recent conflicts. But also possibly avoidant in some ways. I feel like I was sharing about emotional stuff, but not getting emotional, if you understand what I mean. Like I was afraid if I started really crying, then other stuff would come out. I know this sounds like I'm just talking about me, but I'm also trying to express that I get the choice to avoid certain topics to feel more safe. |
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I can understand his wanting you to have one, especially with his being gone overnight at times. I know I would want to have one (though it's more complicated with having D--I feel we need the flexibility). I hope he can find you a good and cheap one. Sounds like he's good at finding reliable cars! |
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#585
Thanks, LT.
You make some excellent points. What I'm struggling with already feels raw, and now it feels like she's opted out of the conversation. There is no easy way to talk about this layer virtually, so although I will gauge it as I go...it's unlikely to be an environment conducive to grief work. The timing is beyond awful - yes, I know that the summer holidays happen, but it seems odd to make a decision that will have such an impact on the people who rely on your support professionally. __________________ 'Somewhere up above the great divide Where the sky is wide, and the clouds are few A man can see his way clear to the light 'You have all the grace you need for today, and today is all that matters.' - Steve Austin |
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Ha! I mean, maybe he's been stung while removing them before. That makes me think of an "exotic animal"* veterinarian we saw for previous guinea pigs (not my current ones--he's retired). He was allergic to guinea pigs (and only them) and had to basically wear a Hazmat suit to treat them. *So guinea pigs are considered "exotic" (as in, not cats or dogs), and vets need special training in them--goes along with rabbits, hamsters, gerbils, and often birds and reptiles. Many vets have no idea what they're doing with guinea pigs, like there are certain antibiotics that can kill them but are fine for most other furry pets. |
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#587
I was watching this today. It might help you too Lost.
It wasn't just about people - also about learning how to find strength and seeing your own capabilities. __________________ ![]() |
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#588
Artie, is uber/lyft available where you live? Compare the occasional use cost to insurance? Of course, michigan has like the highest car insurance rates in the country.
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Use the spare car money to create a buffer for Yourself. __________________ ![]() |
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Writing my way through...
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Dang it's hot in my house. (How did we ever live without a/c when I was a kid? Well I guess it helped that it was the midwest and not here in the desert. And my Dad installed an attic fan, that sucker really cooled the house down well when we opened all the windows and turned it on.) The portable a/c we borrowed from our friend cools only a small area but I'm so very thankful for that. Penelope even likes it; she sits right in front of it! I am so shocked that she's not scared of it cuz it's kinda loud. |
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#591
Weekly Lingo report
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#592
Hi Guys!
T is leaving tomorrow for a three week trip ..first to Paris, France...then several days later she will cruise the British Isles. Her two adult sons will be going with her for part of the trip and head home before the cruise. I am happy for her and am glad she is going. She promises to bring back stories about her adventures. She has had vacations before during these past several years…but never overseas. I will miss her. I don’t have anything major going on, so that’s good. We decided not to start any intense topics right before her vacation. I’ve set up my support system. I can phone her office and speak with a colleague…my previous T has agreed to email with me, if needed. Mostly, I anticipate just catching PrevT up on how I’ve been, etc. I am trying to keep my issues low key. And, I am grateful to be able to talk or vent with you guys here. ![]() You have such great feedback. Thanks. |
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Thanks, LT. Missed this somehow last night. R said she wanted me to be honest with her, at which point I thought 'No, you really effing don't.' I'm glad you understand my avoiding emotional topics to feel more safe. What R is asking of me feels very much like the opposite of what we have been working towards. A lot of the time I am so detached that I struggle to identify what I am feeling. Now I have all the feelings, but no physical safe space to process them. __________________ 'Somewhere up above the great divide Where the sky is wide, and the clouds are few A man can see his way clear to the light 'You have all the grace you need for today, and today is all that matters.' - Steve Austin |
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Writing my way through...
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#594
I got up a little earlier than usual for a Saturday, and went for a walk while it's still relatively cool out. I'm going to try setting my alarm 10 minutes earlier for work days and see if I can get my butt outta bed and take a short walk before I start work (again, while it's still relatively cool out). Wish me luck, as I start work at 6 am haha
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#595
Day 6 on the bikelet. Yay for me! Also processed a visible layer on the hoard. Ate a salad. Also salmon and quinoa.
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#596
Woohoo way to go Una!
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#597
That's great, Una!
I'm going to start a renewed effort toward being healthier this week, as I have a physical the first week of October. Figure that's a good incentive. So I won't be lying when I say I exercise a few times a week. |
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#598
Sounds like the Couch Home Workout Club is go.
I'm in as well, because I need to get on the ball before my next follow up appointment in mid-August. Hoping my core workout can just slot into my routine. __________________ 'Somewhere up above the great divide Where the sky is wide, and the clouds are few A man can see his way clear to the light 'You have all the grace you need for today, and today is all that matters.' - Steve Austin |
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#599
Yeah my drs questionnaire asks for minutes weekly. They dont fool around. Im not keeping track because i can get crazy doing that, but i stay on the bike for at least 30 minutes, taking short breaks when it feels like too much.
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Sign me up for the couch workout club too! I finally started walking again and just got my latest blood work results back yesterday, thyroid numbers look fine but my kidney function numbers are worse, progressing CKD. I will be seeing a nephrologist and a nutritionist for that instead of the weight loss thing I had signed up for through work per my doc. The medical fun never ends but that just means I'm still alive so I'm grateful for that. But boo more doctor appointments.
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