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Sep 10, 2024 at 06:58 AM
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I don’t know what’s going on. I have been seeing my therapist for years. Not sure how many. We have made some huge progress lately. I have learnt stuff about myself. Sometimes she will mention her daughters and it has started to affect me. Occasionally I have to take my toddler to a session which is a nightmare but seeing her with my daughter has triggered in me that I wish she was my mother. I told her this in an email the other day and she was great about it and didn’t freak out. I don’t think she knew how hard it was to write. I don’t know why this happened or what to do about it. Should I leave therapy with her and see a new therapist? I don’t have another appointment for a few weeks.
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Sep 10, 2024 at 04:02 PM
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I think it is quite common for clients to wish the therapist was their mother/father. Transference is a word for it and I would think most therapists are familiar with the concept and can handle it.
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Sep 10, 2024 at 04:35 PM
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Not so much wishing T was the mother more that the light is shining on the mother we didn't have
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Sep 10, 2024 at 05:45 PM
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I wish L was my mother... or at least I did. It's not uncommon especially when you've developed a long-term relationship with a therapist. I don't think you need to leave. Instead, try to work with it.
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Sep 11, 2024 at 12:06 PM
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Why would you leave this therapist?
What if you experience similar feelings with the next therapist - would you leave them too? And the one after that? It may be more beneficial to explore those emerging feelings with your therapist, rather than running away from them and from her. |
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