I just moved to a new city and started trying to find a new T. I had an old T that I worked with for 4 years before.

I made an appointment with a new T and I thought it would be ok, although in the first meeting she kept trying to send me to a clinic. The second meeting she kept trying to refer me out. I feel so rejected and horrible. It's like everything bad I think about myself she justified by getting rid of me. I was a foster kid so any rejection is magnified a thousand times more.
She did not even know me and she wanted to get rid of me.

I can't get the nerve up to look again.

[Perna]

Riptide, that's hard coming from your background but it sounds like she feels she isn't able to help you as you need and was trying to suggest other places to try where you'd get better help; she wasn't rejecting you (as you say, she doesn't know you) she was showing her own limitations in helping you. T's specialize in certain things and she doesn't feel qualified to help you.

Did you check out the clinic? It probably has people there that might be a better fit for you. Can you call your old T and talk with him/her on the phone about the situation and get a professional view that way that you know and trust? I think that would help give me courage to try again.

[BrnEyedGrl]

I so agree with Perna. Call your old T and see what she can do to offer you some support or refer you to someone new. Start with the help of someone you know you can trust!!!
I know it is so hard to switch and start again, I am in that same boat now....ugghhh!!

[unpredictable]

Riptide, I know just how you feel.

The first counselor I ever saw only saw me five times total and said I should find someone else. When I talked to my Pastor he wanted me to see someone else. Then most recently I contacted a T my GP recommended only to be told to see someone else.

But, there is good news, I'm finally with a T that is willing to see me. I know it hurts but in reality its not personal its just that those other people don't feel qualified to help. You just need to call around and find someone who does feel qualified.

(((Riptide))) There is someone who will help you where you are now.