Excuses for not going to therapy-what's your excuse?

I was talking with a friend about how I really don't want to go to therapy tomorrow. I am afraid because of how hard it has been and I feel like T is far away from me right now.

I was considering calling in sick:

"Hewwo T? It's me, Miss Charlotte. I have a tewwible code and I won't able to come to therapy today."

WHAT DO YOU THINK? WILL HE BELIEVE ME?

LOL

I used the "homework" excuse. lol I love being a student.

(((((((((MissCharlotte))))))))))))

honestly? this may not be what you want to hear, but, tell her the truth. She won't force you to come but rather talk to you about why you're feeling like you don't want to.

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WHAT DO YOU THINK? WILL HE BELIEVE ME?

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I predict that he will not only believe you but he will show up at your door with some homemade chicken soup with some remnants of the pieces of fruit that you have thrown at him, lol.

My excuse? I have NEVER not wanted to go to therapy yet. Of course, I've told T that I wanted to quit when I was angry. All lies, of course, to manipulate. I wonder if I will ever truly not want to go. I can't imagine it.

So, pretty much my T wouldn't believe me AT ALL if I called and said I was not going to session. He would say, "So, I'll see you at 3:00 then." I'm pathetic And loving it

I saw your thread and had to laugh. I was just starting to stress out because I just saw the weather report for tomorrow and it looks like it may be another snow day. My last session was 3 weeks ago, it did not go well, and my brain has been stuck in overdrive ever since. I think my brain will burst if I have to wait another week for an appointment.

Think positive thoughts, maybe you'll wake up tomorrow with some renewed strength to endure another session. Maybe you could go and simply ask him to take a break from the hard stuff and just.... read a book... or recap all the progress you made so far.

I have not missed a session is over a year. Only when he goes on vacation or I am out of town.

How predictable am I? Sometimes I feel like calling out but then I remember, if I am doing that to get a reaction from him...it won't work.

He'll just go about his day and I'll be a mess...

When I don't wanna go...I shamefully leave a message on the answering machine in the middle of the nite then unhook my fone so she can't bug me.

funny... they are doing reno at T's office bldg so he has been moved down the hall for a week and there isn't a waiting room.. glancing down the hall and seeing a closed door i stood around by the elevator. When i saw it was 2:04 i got suspcious and went back down the hall... sure enough, i had seen the wrong door closed. HIs had been open. He apparently had just left me a message... and what made me laugh when i saw this thread, he said ".. and you are *never* late."

IF you don't go its only you that will suffer the consequences. Its got to be faced at some point and if you go you could say you are afraid and try and keep round the edges? Just like when a meal's to hot and you stick to the edges. But it is your decision at the end of the day.

For too many years, therapy was the only place I knew I was safe. 100 minutes out of 10,080 a week. I would always choose a miserable time with T out of any other 100 of the other 9,980 minutes alone with myself.

I do think there are times when it is helpful to take a break from therapy, to skip a week. But I know there are also times when we need to go to therapy but are avoidant because it will be difficult or painful or challenging or whatever. The trick is to distinguish between these two. If you really feel skipping a session would be beneficial and isn't just avoidant, I think it is best to be honest with your T. Don't make up excuses about being sick, just call T and say, "I really need a few more days to process before seeing you again, so I'd like to cancel our session tomorrow. I'll see you next week."

fear - i just emailed mine last night saying i should quite while i'm ahead. ironic really.

And the winner is.......Kalamity Jane!!!! Best shameful excuse yet!!

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When I don't wanna go...I shamefully leave a message on the answering machine in the middle of the nite then unhook my fone so she can't bug me.

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LOL Roflmao

You see, I can't call and hope he'll call back because we only trade messages now. If I want to discuss my fear I have to show up.

I can't cancel and say see you Thursday because I'll have to pay for the session anyway. We have a very set schedule twice a week and he sets the time aside for me and holds it so I wouldn't expect it any other way. (Actually, he has never said he would charge me but I would expect it due to the commitment of both of our time.)

I won't lie, even though I want to.

I didn't get the snow day I was hoping for....

I tried to put myself in harm's way by standing next to coughing sneezing students to no avail, so no T-made chicken soup for me!

I guess I will face the music whatever tune he's playin or I'm playing today. Hmmmmm

Here I go...one hour and 40 minutes till T-time.

OMG I GOT A GREAT EXCUSE FOR THE NEXT SESSION!!!!!!!

lol. i can say, uh sorry i cant, im doing my GCSE mocks that day. cant miss.
GO ME

the ONLY time i like a test.

is when it coincides with my T appt
lol

he quits on me alot anyway tho so o well lol.

ive never not wanted to go to therapy.....it's about the only thing i look forward to doing anymore

The only time I REALLY don't want to go to therapy is when I am having a terrible time with anxiety. I have days when my heart races at about 120, my hands shake etc. I HATE going in like that cause I feel self-conscious. However, I know those are the times I most need to go. Isn't this the way with psych disorders? We do exactly the opposite of what would be the most obvious choice.

yeah - i've never not gone. They've canceled or missed the time, or something got scheduled over, but i always go... even when i don't want to and hope i'll get hit by a bus as i cross the street.... my former t could read that look right off me. she says "can i just break my leg now??! right now?!?!" as if talking for me. *sheepish grin*.

There are times that I don't want to go to therapy but make myself go and find that I end up getting something out of it that I probably would have missed terribly had I not gone. Plus if I go I get a free Diet Coke LOL. The clinic I go to gives us soda while we are waiting. I am usually upfront too when I go and say Im not sure I should be here today and we springboard with those feelings.

Jbug

> fear

Yes. In the background of all the mixed feelings that is the real one.

One time I did not go. Many many times I do not want to go. So far it has worked out on the average for me to go, because for some reason I have gradually been better able to hold my own and I seem to be getting progressively better at understanding and explaining the reasons, for why I react the way I do to the T and the whole "mental health system." I have had a lot of experiences with mental health people that have been very damaging for me.

I was on my way, but I was attacked by a sheep. You know.... the ones you told me to look for as I pass by that farm.

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I was on my way, but I was attacked by a sheep. You know.... the ones you told me to look for as I pass by that farm.

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LMAO nice one pinksoil. I'd love to try that one but...inner city....my T would never believe me. lol.

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pinksoil said:
I was on my way, but I was attacked by a sheep. You know.... the ones you told me to look for as I pass by that farm.

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LMAO nice one pinksoil. I'd love to try that one but...inner city....my T would never believe me. lol.

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LOL Jane, I live in the city, too. And my T's office used to be right in the city, just five minutes away. Then about two months ago he moved it about a 45 minutes outside of the city and it's so weird... like another world. On the way there I pass by this farm thingy and there are always goats out and my T always tells me (every single week) "Look for the sheep. There is a sheep there." lol

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jbug said:
Plus if I go I get a free Diet Coke LOL. The clinic I go to gives us soda while we are waiting.

Jbug

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Jbug....ROFL...I almost wet my pants!

I always make it to therapy. There are days I have had little ones inside that email my T freaking out that they want to cancel, it stems from abandonment fears and they're just overwhelmed. But she always is really, really sweet and gentle with them and gets them to see she WANTS to see them through the hard times, so we always make it.
I only missed ONCE and that was because I was an hour away staying with a friend and had finals going on and there was a miscommunication about using my friends car to go to therapy. I found out late the night before my appointment about not getting the car. For some odd reason my T called me at like 8:45 that morning (appt. scheduled at 9) but I missed the call. She called again a little after 9 and asked if I was coming. I was sleepy and disorientated. She asked if she needed to come over so we could do it at home and we told her only if she wanted to drive an hour to see us!! So we talked on the phone for about 30 minutes. But that has been the ONLY time that *I* have been the one not to make it there.