<font color="purple">Well, my mom asked me that since it would be difficult to get an after-school timeslot for a T, if it were possible for me to wait until summer vacation to start, that way there are alot more options. The decision is toatally up to me.

The thing is: I don't know.

I mean yeah, I'm going through some rough times right now, and it feels like I can't wait sometimes...but then again there are times when I'm perfectly fine too and it's like I don't even need a T period. To me, it's a really big, hard, decision, and I just don't know which one to pick. </font>

[tsha]

No, I don't think you should. I think you need that outlet, you need the professional help.
I waited and I regret it. If you can't get an appt after school, what about Saturday?
This may be something you want to talk with your therapist about.

[ECHOES]

Difficult is not impossible. You won't know unless you try; there may be an opening that would fit perfectly.

My T has appointments until 8pm, some have Saturday hours.

Why not see what's available?

[jacq10]

yes, I agree.. why not look into it more and see if you can find a T with after school hours...

Like anything else, i'm sure you'd be able to find one if you look hard enough.

I also had a T that I would see "after hours"

It's not so difficult. I have a schedule that does not allow me to see T during the day and for two and a half years we have juggled around to make sure that there is a 4:30 or later timeslot open... and now I see hm on Saturdays as well. T's normally have certain days in which they work later because they understand they are going to be working with a lot of people who go to school and/or work. I know the place that I interviewed with last week said that their child and adolescent therapists don't come in UNTIL evening because of the school schedule. I think you should call around and see what you can get.

[Perna]

One thing you might want to think ahead on; if you get an "easier" time slot for the summer, what happens when school starts again in the Fall? I'd work to get a good timeslot, good therapist, etc. that you can work with for awhile?

<font color="purple">I don't know that much, pretty much all my mom really told me was that she was having a difficult time finding a timeslot after 3pm, and asked if I wanted to wait for a little while until school is out. I don't think that weekends are really the best time because my weekends aternate between my dad and mom. </font>

[Perna]

I have a friend and her daughter goes during a school morning and then to school. I'd ask your mom if you couldn't get a 2:30 or 3:00 slot and be picked up from school, etc. if necessary. It's one day a week. I don't know what your last class is and how well you're doing, etc. but it's just a "doctor's" appointment, it shouldn't be too embarrassing or anything if you got up and left a little early one day a week.

I had a 3:30 appointment that got backed up to 2:30 and I use to have to leave work Noon-1:00 on Wednesdays to get there in time. It's a bit embarrassing and weird the first few times but then everyone adjusts.

<font color="purple">Well, school technicaly ends at 2:36, but I also have other responsibilities afterschool as well, mostly staying after to make up scince labs that I'm behind on, or making more progress on an art project that is going too slowly, and I am a member of the envirathon club- and how many meetings you go to determines if you go to the competitions. I supose as long as it isn't wednesday I could comprimise with my teachers on what days I can stay after- because aside from the meetings every Wednesday, nothing is set in stone. I would have to talk to my mom about this though (which really kind of sucks, but it's getting better)</font>

[Perna]

If you can practice talking to your mom, that's half the battle. Very hard to talk to mom's, I don't envy you there :-) but is a good place to start for talking to a T too. I wish I'd tried to talk to my mom more.

<font color="purple">Well, at least it's better to talking to my dad or brother about my problems, talking to my mom is like dipping your toes in some cold water- talking to my dad is more like running into a wall. A brick wall. A solid brick wall.

Well, I'll be seeing her tomarrow, so I can talk to her then about it. </font>

[Perna]

Yeah, guys can be hard, brick wall hard. They often can't think the way we do, literally; I could talk to my husband, he'd be willing and would listen but wouldn't understand. I have three older brothers so know about the brother thing. It's hard being a guy though, too. Glad you can talk to your mom soon.

<font color="purple">Well, as a bit of an update- I didn't really get the chance to talk with her -alone- for a little while, so it'll have to wait till thursday. I've waited this long now- so it's not like 2 days will kill me or anything. </font>

<font color="purple">UPDATE:
I asked mom intstead of waiting, if there could be another schedule like weekends or something. Her immeadiate response being "Alot of doctors don't work weekends" Geez, if you claim that it's really hard to find an afterschool timeslot, and it's not like you can change it so I could see a T on the weekends, then why even bother asking me if I wanted to wait or not? It seems to me that even if I wanted not to wait, I'd end up having to anyways. </font>