today I saw T for the 3rd time. All she did was fire questions at me..she didn't even care that i was getting upset and crying. she just wanted information

i got so dissociated, i wound up hurting myself to come back.

why was she like this? and she did not even give a crap that i was upset..she just wanted her info

is it only going to get worse? should I quit and get a new T????

[RozG]

((((((((((Riptide))))))))))

I'm sorry you had such a bad time with T today.

[Rapunzel]

You need to tell her if she is going too fast. I don't know what kinds of questions she was asking. She might have thought she was encouraging you to tell your story, and maybe she didn't know that it was too much too soon for you, and that you needed more support.

[ECHOES]

(((( riptide )))) I'm sorry that happened. It's something that you and T can work out together.

My T is wonderful and once she did the same thing to me. I have trouble reacting in the moment, and I just sat there and got through it. Afterward I realized that it bothered me and next session I told her that the last session it felt like she was bombarding me with her rapid-fire questions. She thought back on it, then acknowledged it. She said she does know that about herself, that she does that. It was very validating for me for her to respond in that way.

Another time, telling her something reallly really difficult, she did the same rapid-firing kind of thing, but you know.. it kept me grounded that time. It kept me right where I needed to be to get through what we were talking about. I told her next time that she did it again but it was useful that time.

I think you should tell her everything you said here: what she did, how you felt about what she did and how you felt she didn't care that you were upset, and that it scared you and all this made you think of quitting.

Although this was hard for you, talking about it with her can be connecting and reassuring.

[chaotic13]

((Riptide)) I remember playing 50 questions in the beginning sessions. This was mainly because I wasn't an active participant. I also remember suffering through times when I felt like my T was deliberately torturing me. However, I can honestly say I never felt like she didn't care if I was upset during a session. Anytime I've mentioned or implied being upset she has responded and tried to ease my discomfort.

I'm sorry your T seems like she is just digging for information.

[Kiya]

Riptide - I agree with Echos... tell t everything. I, too, have a t who did that and I didn't say anything and just got totally dissociated and would hurt myself later to come back. With my current t I want to be a part of the process (like Mckell said, I wasn't being an active participant with the other t - well, i was also intimidated by her) so this time i started off with saying "here's what works for me, here's what i reacted to" - and this has moved us further and really created that "relationship" thing.