[jbug]

Do you ever wish that your therapist was your parent? I wish my T was my mom. We were talking this week about Easter traditions again and she asked if I was going to be coloring eggs and I told her no my dad said it was a waste of money as the eggs never got eaten. She got angry and said that wasn't the point of coloring eggs it was because it was fun. I was supposed to make myself an Easter basket too because it was fun. I ended up making 2 Easter baskets one for me and one for a little girl in the church that I thought would like an Easter basket. That was fun. I was bummed when I found out I couldn't color eggs. I think having Dr. M as my mom would be a blast because she thinks all the cool stuff is fun.

Jbug

[Merlin]

i don't. i love my parents so much (as they love me) and would never want to exchanges. maybe if they had a few of my favorite pdoc traits.

Sometimes I have felt "fathered" by T. The protection of my little girl feelings felt good, but I have never wished that he was my father because I would never trade my dad for anyone in the world.

My first T was a woman and I would wish that she was my mother or that I had a mother like her.

I love my husband very much, but I have definitely fantasized about what it would be like for T to fill that role because of the deep understanding and connections that we have that I do not have with my husband because of various reasons.

[Kiya]

i did have a t who i wanted to adopt me. she got angry at my parents on my behalf and has said if i'm ever in a bind and on the street to call her cuz she won't leave me out in the cold. I finally quit therapy with her and asked if i could adopt her as my aunt since she is more fam to me than my own.

[jacq10]

I use to wish that my old T was my mom...

I still think she would make an awesome mother. Maybe because she is one.

Then again, I use to have a "surrogate mother" and she only ended up hurting me more.

So I think its safer to stick with the parents that you have.. for better or for worse.

[Lemon]

I think my T would probably be a good mom. But, I bet that sometimes her kids roll their eyes because maybe she's always asking them "and how did that make you feel"!

[Dinah]

I never wish my therapist was my real mom. As a real mom, he would be nagging about clothes on the floor, or yelling at me when he was annoyed with me. Plus, he is far from perfect. He is forgetful and disorganized and might well drive me nuts if I had to rely on him.

Overall, I think I get the better part of him.

I see him 100 minutes a week, which is not so much that he gets sick of me, or irritated with my flaws. He tries to put aside his own problems for that time, and focus on what goes on in the office. He might tell me when he is angry, but he is careful about how he does it. He helps me hold myself together, and never asks that I do the same for him.

HI jbug.

I wished all the time that my old T was my mom. I even told her all the time and sometimes in the transferance I would respond like she was my mom.


She would have been the perfect mom...gentle and kind, but tough when needed. She took care of me in so many ways. She even called me when I was sick and when I had surgery.

I think that it is not uncommon for people that did not get what they needed when they were younger to wish this.

[krazibean]

yep. all the time.

i see pictures of her two year old son. he's still so helpless and needy, so he gets a lot of her attention. the kind i crave. she prob holds him in her lap when he's upset. she tells him she loves him and cuddles him and strokes his hair till he falls asleep.

i wish for it always.

I love my T dearly, and I wish she could have been at my side during hard times in my childhood - but I never really wished she was my mother - as awful as my mother is/was. I find very loving, "motherly" traits in my T, that I wish I could have felt and experienced as a child.

I don't really look to her or hope for her to a "mother" to me, but a very loving, warm person I hope that I can get to know more.

[jacq10]

When I went to go visit my old T, I went to her house with her and her two little kids, and she made us grilled cheese sandwiches and vegetables. She insisted that her kids eat their vegetables and joked around saying that I should too. Then we went to the park and out for coffee/hot chocolate. Just for that afternoon I was "privy" to her familial life... and for that short period of time, I was truly, 100% happy.

It was absolutely wonderful.

[pachyderm]

> I was bummed when I found out I couldn't color eggs.

Why the ?&*$ not? Maybe you could do some research via Google to find out how? I seem to remember vinegar and ...

[Brian37]

not my mom....were only four years apart in age.....

i still have fanatasies about her being my wife though

[lauren_helene]

I wish T was my big brother/friend because sometimes it feels that way!