[lindee]

I know nobody can help me with this but I just have to get it out of my head. I am going to a new theapist today after seeing my first therapist for almost 5 years. She suggested I go to this other guy because I think she is tired of me and my "problems". She said it is because he has more experience and education.?

I am scared to death. Starting all over! I have such anxieties about the unknown. The new therapist is a man, the old was a woman. I don't know what to say to him. What is he going to ask me? What if I clam up? What if I say the wrong things? What if I don't say the right things? What if he asks questions that I can't answer? He is going to think I'm stupid. I don't have anything to wear. My husband always went in with me to the old therapist, what if the new guy won't let my husband come in?

Oh man, I'm sweating just thinking about this afternoon. A new therapist! I should have told her " No, I don't want to go to a different therapist." Should I take some clonazepam before I go? But then I won't be myself. I suppose he should see the real me.? Oh, what have I got myself into?! I just know that this is going to be a terrible day.

Thanks for listening. Hope you have a good day.

[Perna]

Oh, Lindee, that's hard. I don't think your old therapist was tired of you, it sounds like you do have some difficult problems and this guy probably does have more experience working with someone as frightened of others as you are.

Tell us how it went when you get back, will you please? I think you will find the new therapist "nice" and not too demanding. He'll probably just ask basic questions this first time, about why you are there and what helps you or what you like and don't like. It will be okay I think.

[scott88keys]

Best wishes to you. I had to start over with a new therapist when mine moved to another state. I thought it was the end. But I've developed a wonderful new relationship with my present T. Take your medicine if it helps you--why be in a state of panic when you have medicine available? It's scary because it's new and you don't know what to expect. Does it have to be all or nothing? If you don't feel a connection after say, four sessions with the guy, could you go back to the woman? For her to recommend him because of his education and experience tells me that she really cares about you and thinks he would be of more help to you. Give him a few sessions and see if it works. Hang in there. It's only an hour or so--anyone can get through an hour.

[lindee]

thanks Perna and Scott. I'm counting the minutes till T time.

[gimmeice]

(((((Lindee)))))))
Good luck

[Fuzzybear]

Thinking of you Lindee, good luck

[Mouse_]

Hope it goes ok for you Lindee.

[sabby]

Hey lindee......it sure can be difficult switching T's. One thing I want to remind you of though is that this is YOUR time with your T. If you wish your husband to be with you during your visits, then it should be acceptable and allowed. Most T's are not out to trick you, or to judge you or to make you feel uncomfortable. Sometimes when we've been with a T for a really long period of time, you may have received all the help you can from that particular T and they realize that another T may be able to take your further down your road to recovery. I sincerely doubt that your old T was trying to get rid of you......I'm sure she was concerned with your healing and wanted only the best for you!

Wishing you well in your continued healing process!


sabby

[ECHOES]

How did it go?

[tulips30]

This post is kind of late, but I just wanted to share something with you.

When I went to my 1st t., my husband always went in with me. It felt normal and made me feel less scared. Then, one time he was too sick to go. I went by myself. Af first it felt scary and lonely. But, I realized I felt different in a good way too. We decided to try it alone every other time. Now, unless it's a problem we need to discuss together ex: our marriage, kids etc., I go alone. It feels like it's my time and I can say & be anybody I want.

Just a thought

tulips

[Izzyparker]

I hope it went okay. I wanted to tell you to just be yourself and the new therapist would help lead the session.

Please let us know how it went.

[lindee]

I want to thank everyone so much for the good wishes and encouragement. The session with the new therapist went all right I guess. It was more of a get to know the therapist time. He told me all about him and his family, his education and his work experience. I even found the area of town that he lives in. I did a little blabbering but mostly I just shook and tried to concentrate on what he was saying. My husband did go in with me and T thought it was a good idea. He is welcome all the time if that is what i want. I don't function well without him. Right now at least, so he will go as long as i need him.

T seems to be a very nice man. I hope to be comfortable going there soon. He wants me to come to him every week. I was going to my former T every 2-3 weeks cause thats what i wanted.

Anyway, thanks everyone. It means alot to me, especially since I haven't contributed a lot on here. I do appreciate you.

Lindee

[sabby]

((((((((((((( lindee ))))))))))))))))

I'm so glad you got through the appointment! I'm also glad that hubby is welcome....it's as it should be! I think going once a week in the beginning is a good way for you both to get to know one another and for him to learn more about you and how to help you the best way he can. It sounds very positive.

Take good care!


sabby