Present

If you could choose your ideal or dream present from your therapist which you could keep close to your heart to remind you of them, what would it be?

Her!
For her to say, I give myself to you to keep as close as you need me to be forever and always!

My T gives me things sometimes and they mean a lot to me.

He gave me a marble from a bowl of pretty marbles in his office to keep with me to remind me of our connection. When I had a massive anxiety attack in his office another time after that, he gave me two to hold in my hands, and let me take them home. So, I'm developing a marble collection

He gave me the phone number to his office phone on his desk that he doesn't give out (he only gives out his voice mail number). I don't even think it rings in there. He just wanted me to feel secure and that I had as much access to him as I could have, within the therapeutic boundaries.

He wrote me an e-mail that meant a lot to me, and I printed it and put in my journal, and he's left voice mail messages for me to listen to when he's on vacation.

He has given me his time on the phone between appointments when I've been in a crisis.

He gives me physical touch - touching fingers or clasping hands - at the end of our appointments to reinforce our connection.

He's going to a continuing education class on Eating Disorders JUST to help me, because that's not his area of expertise and it's an issue for me.

Now that I think about it, when I need something, he finds a way to give it to me. THAT is the greatest gift, and I can't think of anything that would be better. Have I mentioned how much I love him??

to see her 2 or 3 times a week so we could really build connection and get to the underlying problems. ...and not go away for trips or vacations for a full year.

Kiya -

Have you talked to her about seeing her more than once a week??

A Hippo.

The present.....If I was still with my old T, I would want to move in with her and be her daughter. She would be my mom.

A shirt that smells like him, even though I really don't know what he smells like... I imagine it must be good. I mean, I've gotten close enough, I guess, in order to smell him, haha... when he pulls his chair close so he can hold my hand... but I never leaned in for a sniff or anything... But it would be so cool to have one of his shirts, plus a bottle of whatever he does smell like, so the scent would never run out.

He has given me many wonderful things that remind me of him-- books, movies, emails, quotes, a cute/funny sign, voicemails, etc.

He has also given me himself, in a whole, complete way. He has made himself as available as I could ever ask for.

I think I would want a necklace with something significate to her on it, so I could always have it with me.

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earthmama said:
Kiya -

Have you talked to her about seeing her more than once a week??

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earthmama - no.. she didn't even have time for me as it was. she squeezed me in because my MD made her.

Mountain stream - what is yours that you would want? you never said....