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Legendary
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May 31, 2008 at 09:53 PM
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Alas, it is June again.... and everywhere I turn it's "DAD'S AND GRAD'S" .... must they combine the two? this marks the 2nd father's day I am not sending a card. Not because the man is physically dead, but certainly he is to my heart, mind, and soul. I tire from triggering at the the words Father's Day everytime I turn around, tire of the guilt in my heart even though I am not the one who did wrong. Tired of feeling sick about this.
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Jun 01, 2008 at 12:52 AM
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i bought a card for my dad anyway. i will take it to the cemetery and read it to him. then i will bring it home, and put it away.
havent spent a dad day with my dad in 4 yrs, but this is the first year i havent had the option. *big hugs to all* __________________ Bipolar 1 w/psychotic features or schizoaffective bipolar type PTSD generalized anxiety OCD maybe celexa, prazosin, risperdal and prn klonopin |
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Legendary
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Jun 01, 2008 at 01:31 AM
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Hallie beth, thanks for posting
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Jun 01, 2008 at 07:34 AM
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Jun 01, 2008 at 10:03 AM
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I dread it too, Kiya. You're not alone.
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Jun 01, 2008 at 10:39 AM
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My father's still alive and I live with him. I dread it too... I have to act all FAKE to him etc etc. Gah. I bought a card anyway and just leave at his desk. Idc if he reads it or not. >.>
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Jun 01, 2008 at 10:48 AM
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father's day is why I hate this entire month
 nice to know I'm not alone but sorry you dread it too.
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Jun 01, 2008 at 11:43 AM
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Legendary
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Jun 01, 2008 at 12:39 PM
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Yeah, i took a pen to the words on the calender, obliterating them. Then found an I Love You sticker and put that over it so that when I see it, there is a message to me saying I Love You.
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Jun 01, 2008 at 02:34 PM
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Kiya, I like your sticker idea!
My father chose not to want a relationship with me until I became an adult. (parents divorced when I was 4) I don't mind getting him a card. It's just hard to find one that doesn't say stuff like "What a wonder father you've been". 
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Jun 01, 2008 at 03:58 PM
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((((hugs))) to all... yes I dread father's day.... and then... 4th of July.. because that is the event of passing....
There aren't cards that say... what.. I would want to say... I guess...you know... they don't make a card... like that..... sometimes it is hard too... because my son.. with be celbrating with his father... and with that too... since.. I was divorced while pregnant.. and raised him on my own... there well... there are things that I would like to say.. but don't...... what a "downer" I am... sorry... sometimes... I would think.. I would like to make.. make a card for the Dad.. I wish I had had... (cazy right??) but somehow.. that might feel good.. this year... no I didn't get to have that Dad... but... I don't know... being 52.. maybe... it is time... |
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Jun 01, 2008 at 05:07 PM
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Father's day is not too bad for me. I usually feel guilty because I really don' t think much about my Dad on father's day or any other day for that matter. Usually, this feeling last for a little while and then gets buried 'til the next father's day.
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Jun 01, 2008 at 06:15 PM
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yeah liberada,
i thought about "writing" (in here only) the kind of card I would "send". I think i did once send him a littany of all the crap (not on F. Day) and he was in denial and shock. Evidently once when i was little i was really pissed off at mom and it was monther's day. i guess i gave her a card that said "Dear mom, I hate you. Love, Kiya". Hehehe __________________ Credits: ChildlikeEmpress and Pseudonym for this lovely image. alt="Universal Life Church | ULC" border="0">
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Jun 01, 2008 at 06:37 PM
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Hope it's okay to post. I used to dread Mothers Day. I would acknowledge it, but I would find a card that just overflowed with praise and gushed with loving memories and closeness and affection.
Irony. She never "got" it. But I did. 
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Jun 01, 2008 at 06:48 PM
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I don't dread father's day... though I know it's about to happen because of all the advertising!
My dad was dx'd with brain cancer the last week of May that year... so all of June was his battle...and surgery... and family frenzy who thought he'd live to 100 because he was never sick... he passed after 5 weeks, and was buried ...a few days before his 84th birthday July 3rd. I "smoke" (burn) one of his favorite cigars on his birthday, in memory.
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Jun 01, 2008 at 07:39 PM
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ECHOES said: Hope it's okay to post. I used to dread Mothers Day. I would acknowledge it, but I would find a card that just overflowed with praise and gushed with loving memories and closeness and affection. Irony. She never "got" it. Thanks for posting echoes =) Totally, if I did that for my dad he'd be beaming in pleasure because that is how he sees himself - this great guy who is the king of all fathers. He wouldn't get the irony either. But I did. </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> __________________ Credits: ChildlikeEmpress and Pseudonym for this lovely image. alt="Universal Life Church | ULC" border="0">
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Jun 01, 2008 at 08:04 PM
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I try to forget its even happening
As i have said my dad has been gone 7 years He did not leave on a good note Do miss him thou My father in law, who I took care of and he gave me many insites to things Passed on fathers Dad.... I keep his crutches in the corner........ As i have said was vert kind to me at the end......... The day he passed everything changed......... |
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Jun 01, 2008 at 08:09 PM
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Kiya, that's what my mom did, too. She even saved many of them and we found them after her death.
So I guess we both got what we wanted. I got the satisfaction of being facetious and she got to pretend she was Glenda the Good Witch.
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Jun 01, 2008 at 09:13 PM
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Jun 01, 2008 at 10:37 PM
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ECHOES said: I would acknowledge it, but I would find a card that just overflowed with praise and gushed with loving memories and closeness and affection. </div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> I did (sometimes still do the same thing. My parents never got it either. They just assumed that 1) I didn't care to have a real relationship with either of them or 2) I was too busy to read and select a nice card, or 3) I had some mental defect that didn't allow me to love them. __________________ "Joy is your sole's knowledge that if you don't get the promotion, keep the relationship, or buy the house, it's because you weren't meant to.You're meant to have something better, something richer, something deeper, Something More." (Sara Ban Breathnach) |
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