I get this!!!

Told T how heavy therapy is getting now...how alone I am feeling and much of a struggle it is... told T I didn't want to be there today, didn't want to talk about %#@&#! breaks and wanted to hate her, none of these things can I do,,ggrrr feeling here......T then said after some annoying silence...I think your experiencing me as your mother and how you didn't want to have to go home to her, but had too, how you wanted to hate her but couldnt'....at the time I knew she had got it right but its only now I realise how important that little insight today was, though on the surface it sounds pretty obvious and perhaps something anyone outside of me could see...then tonight i just read this article...

<font color="#000088"> The Role of Transference in the Psychoanalytic Technique
It is perfectly true that psychoanalysis, like other psychotherapeutic methods, employs the instrument of suggestion (or transference). But the difference is this: that in analysis it is not allowed to play the decisive part in determining the therapeutic results. It is used instead to induce the patient to perform a piece of psychical work - the overcoming of his transference resistances - which involves a permanent alteration in his mental economy. The transference is made conscious to the patient by the analyst, and it is resolved by convincing him that in his transference-attitude he is re-experiencing emotional relations which had their origin in his earliest object-attachments during the repressed period of his childhood. In this way the transference is changed from the strongest weapon of the resistance into the best instrument of the analytic treatment. Nevertheless its handling remains the most difficult as well as the most important part of the technique of analysis. ( From "An Autobiographical Study" - 1925)</font>

Yes I get it!!! now I can go back and talk about how it does feel like it did with my mother and its no longer in the dark recesses of my mind preventing me from gaining a new experince with T...aaaarrrhhh at last, some more freedom from the past.

Is that quote from Freud?

" is that a quote from freud?"

NOt sure (scratches head)

Mouse, I just made a big leap forward in therapy due to transference. I am happy for you. I have been seeing my pdoc for 5 or more years and my T for 1 and 1/2 years. I feel like I am just now meeting them--building a real relationship with them. It is exciting!