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Jun 16, 2008, 12:50 AM
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Tuesday is my last day with my T after 3 years of a very close professional relationship where I saw him almost weekly and emailed him at least twice a day.
I am beyond devastated - I feel like a huge chunk of my life is gone with no one to fill it. I told him so much over the years, he was with me through everything including my attempts over the years to end it. I did meet my new T - just last week and I wasn't impressed. He did say that he knew it would take some time and that he didn't want to diminish the relationship I had with my old T. I appreciated that. It's just that this is the worst time for a change in Ts. I am under so much stress (unemployment benefits end soon and no job in sight) that it is impossible to see any light at the end of the tunnel. Any good wishes or support would be much appreciated. Thanks. Mary Alice |
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Jun 16, 2008, 08:52 AM
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((((((((((( Mary Alice ))))))))))))))
Your new T sounds like a nice guy, it must be very difficult to change Ts though. 
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#3
Jun 16, 2008, 08:54 AM
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((((((((((((( Mary Alice ))))))))))))))
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Jun 16, 2008, 11:32 AM
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{{{{{{{gimmeice and Fuzzy}}}}}}}} thanks for the hugs. I am very concerned about this upheaval in my life, I just don't react well to change.
 Mary Alice |
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Jun 16, 2008, 02:38 PM
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(((Mary Alice)))
Sorry you are going through transition...the new T sounds good too...PM me if you need too I am here 
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Jun 16, 2008, 03:21 PM
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{{{{{{{{{Clyde}}}}}}}} I am so upset over losing my T that it is hard to give the new one much of an opportunity I guess. But I have to get past this - tomorrow will be a day of tears.
 Mary Alice |
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#7
Jun 16, 2008, 05:16 PM
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Planning to Survive,
It is really hard to find a therapist that you really mesh well with. While your new therapy sounds understanding, it sounds like your first impression is that a certain chemistry is lacking. Personality is important for a therapeutic fit to be most satisfying. Let us know how it goes tomorrow. EJ
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Jun 16, 2008, 05:19 PM
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I wanted to add it is hard to believe that you will find a job again, when you have been unemployed for awhile, and/or had bad experiences with previous employers. God's timing is perfect, and your friends are praying for you, and for the right door to open.
Miracles are possible. EJ
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#9
Jun 16, 2008, 05:30 PM
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{{{{{{{{{EJ}}}}}}}}}}}} thank you. I keep trying to find a job and am getting so discouraged. It really has been quite awhile.
I'm going to try to give my new T a chance. It just feels like I lost my best friend. I appreciate the prayers and the support. Mary Alice
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#10
Jun 16, 2008, 05:36 PM
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Mary Alice,
It sounds like your current therapist was extremely emotionally supportive. Depending on the length of the relationship, I can see where you would feel like you are losing a family member. EJ
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Jun 16, 2008, 05:52 PM
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((((Planning))))))),
Just wanted to send some positive thoughts your way. I'm thinking about you. Take care |
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#12
Jun 16, 2008, 08:25 PM
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{{{{{{{{EJ}}}}}}}}}} he was always there for me emotionally. He sent me an email today apologizing for not getting back to me this weekend. He knows more about me and my past than even my parents.
It will truly be a tearful session tomorrow. Mary Alice 
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Jun 16, 2008, 08:26 PM
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{{{{{{{Soliaree}}}}}}}} it's nice to meet you. I really appreciate the kind words and support. Thank you.
Mary Alice |
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#14
Jun 16, 2008, 09:09 PM
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Good luck ((Mary Alice))
I cannot imagine changing T's. You are so brave. Trust yourself and you will do fine.
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Jun 16, 2008, 11:58 PM
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{{{{{{{Miss Charlotte}}}}}}}}} thank you for your support. Unfortunately where I go for therapy, I only ever get residents, so it's like musical Ts every 3-4 years.
 Mary Alice |
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#16
Jun 17, 2008, 12:58 AM
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((((((((((( Mary Alice )))))))))))))
Saying goodbye when you have a good relationship with someone who has helped you hurts.  You will make it through this too. You have come so far.
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Jun 17, 2008, 08:38 AM
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(((((Mary Alice)))))
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Jun 17, 2008, 01:20 PM
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{{{{{{{{{Wendy}}}}}}}} it's nice to hear from you. I'm trying to get ready to go, and trying not to cry at the same time. It's nice to know that people here understand the pain I'm going through.
Thanks. Mary Alice |
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Jun 17, 2008, 01:21 PM
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{{{{{{{{pachyderm}}}}}}}}} thank you for caring.
Mary Alice |
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#20
Jun 17, 2008, 02:11 PM
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Mary Alice,
I hope your appointment went as well as can be expected today. Let us know when you feel able. EJ
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Jun 17, 2008, 03:37 PM
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(((((((((((((((((((((((((( Mary Alice ))))))))))))))))))))))))))
Lots and lots of
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#22
Jun 17, 2008, 07:33 PM
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Thank you everyone. Today was extremely difficult for me. Seems like I can't see my new T for two weeks and I am basically without any support.
I cried, my old T and I hugged, and he told me that his mailbox should be open till the end of this month so that he can answer me. Not as often as before because he will be busy, but when he can. I feel like I am grieving and just want to stay under my blankets. Mary Alice |
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#23
Jun 17, 2008, 08:52 PM
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((((((((((Mary Alice))))))))))
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Jun 17, 2008, 09:33 PM
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{{{{{{{sunrise}}}}}}}} thank you.
Mary Alice |
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#25
Jun 17, 2008, 10:42 PM
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Oh my heart is breaking for you. You are grieving and it's okay to stay under your blankets for comfort.
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