Why am I so stubborn ?

Not sure if stubborn is the best word; maybe defensive is better. I am not very good at taking others advise, I have a nasty case of insomnia and my partner makes suggestions on how to fall asleep. Ie. Meditation, Massage, healthy diet etc etc. All are valid options yet I get my back up each time he mentions them, and try and squirm my way out of doing any of them. Even agreeing with him takes a lot of effort and then I am angry with myself afterwards for giving in.

Would really like to understand why I feel this.

I don't think anybody likes feeling told what to do - I know I surely don't. Even sometimes when I KNOW the other person is trying to help and has my interests at heart I still find it annoying sometimes...

Maybe... Instead of people trying to change things for you... What you really need / want... Is someone simply to empathize with you just the way that you are.

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Perhaps...

Resistance to healing and feeling better... hmmmm

Why not try just one of them for a while... that will let him feel better about the suggestions, and who knows, it might just work? I think sometimes we are comfortable in what we know, and fear failing if we try something new. Add to that fear that we might become disappointed again, and it makes for a reason to not try. TC!

I get like that. I feel as if the other person isn't understanding the effect the "problem" is having on me and just wants me/it to go away. Perhaps sometimes theres some truth in that, but perhaps also sometimes someone just wants to share with you what works/ed for them. I guess its in the delivery. If they showed empaphy first then the solution I maybe more willing to listen.