I had a session with T yesterday that went well. It will be interesting to see if it is easier to make it to the next session. Just thought I'd share something positive

Last session, I asked T if he would start sharing his thoughts/feelings with me as they are happening. He did this and it made a huge difference. He explained about a time when he was "frustrated" (actually not during that session) or angry but he also included why and described it more. I am not hurt nor devastated, but actually feel relieved. He also described how he felt in regard to a positive situation, which was nice. I think this is going to help me move forward. We shall see.

For now, I'm going to enjoy the Peace.

[MissCharlotte]

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Whoa...there's the shoe on the other foot~or something like that!

Awesome. Congratulations

[MINIME]

I am so happy for you. It feels good to have some peace.

That is awesome, soliaree!

I like your idea of asking him to tell you his thoughts/feelings. That would save me a lot of worrying about what T is thinking. I can totally understand why that would give you some peace.

[Dinah]

I had the same experience with asking my therapist to be more transparent in his reactions at the moment. Yes, sometimes he is angry or frustrated. But knowing in the moment is so much better than guessing.

The only thing he'll never admit to is feeling bored. I'm sure he must be at times, but when I comment on his appearing bored, he always denies it.

[Kiya]

Wow - that is good that you could ask for that and that he provided! Gold star!

[gimmeice]

((((((((((((( Soliaree )))))))))))))))))))
I think it is great that you were able to ask your T for something that you needed.