[missboots]

Lately in T my T asks if ( I AM OK) It is usually after I start to tell her something and drop it or if I might look like I might say something then don't and remain silent. I feel like what is she really asking? What if I did say no what then? Is this a line of crap trying to get you to contienue what you were gonna say without her comming out directly and asking? Do all T say this?

[skeksi]

Try to take what she says at face value. When you stop discussing something, perhaps you look distressed or she suspects you stopped because you are upset. She is asking if you are okay to find out if you are, indeed, okay. She wants to find out what's going on inside for you at that moment.

It's hard to trust that she is interested and compassionate, right?

[Dinah]

I've found it best to make my reactions verbal during therapy. So that if you're wondering in the moment what she means by it, ask. You don't need to do it in a hostile way. But the formula "When you [ask if I'm ok at these times], I feel [curious as to whether....]"

My therapist is very open to answering these in session type of questions, because it keeps me from forming wrong conclusions without verifying them. Which is part of therapy when you think about it. Learning to be open in communication.

Mind you, I'm not always pleased with his answer. A lot of times I'd rather think he was being artful and probing, and discover that he wasn't thinking at all.

[missboots]

Thanks guy's. I guess I should ask her what she means and not jump to my own thoughts.