[lauren_helene]

I have this bear, he's now called A.J. and I gave him to my son. His initials are A.J.

My guardian angel (my aunt H) gave me this bear and it's the only thing that has survived all these years that she gave me.

he has no eyes and he's a little ragged but he's still here.

I wonder if T will think this is silly? I need to put him in a bigger bag so other clients won't see me carrying this old bear into the office.

I told T a few times I have this fantasy of falling asleep on his couch... he said "then what?" and I said "nothing, I'm asleep and you're working"...he said "oh, you just want to stay"...

I love my T...he gets me.

[Kiya]

Awesome!! I think it's a great idea =)
Kiya
(Benedict is going with me today too)

Sometimes I bring stuffed bears to thearpy. I normally carry pretty large purses and these bears are rather small, so they fit inside nicely. I usually hold the bear if I am feeling little and sometimes, in a way, it is like holding onto T. Then when the bear comes home with me (even though he is my bear to begin with) he becomes a transitional object because I have "assigned" him meaning-- he is now a therapy bear.

I addressed my feelings, with T, about feeling silly for being a 27 year old who brings stuffies to therapy. T said that he admired me because I am the only client he has seen who is brave enough to get that in touch with an inner part of the self-- to bring the safety object in, integrate it into session, and to feel comfortable doing that.

If you bring your bear in, integrate him into therapy (he probably needs therapy anyway, since he lost his eyeballs-- tough deal, you know? lol) That way you can address any feelings that you have about the signifcance of bringing him along.

One time I brought my green bear to therapy and T and I ended up having some sort of rupture. That bear ended up being tossed on my livingroom floor when I got home, and would you know-- I didn't pick him up for about a week. And I told H to leave him there, too.

When we make an object transitional, it becomes so powerful.

[Angel_of_the_Past]

For me, being able to take a bear to therapy then want to fall asleep tells me the depth of your relationship with your T. I wish I had that with mine.

[Simcha]

Would it be stranger if a guy brought a stuffed bear to therapy?

[lauren_helene]

Pink wow, thanks I will integrate A.J. into therapy!

I can see myself tossing said bear on the floor if angry with T...

Oh and I'm 38 and bringing this bear so why grow up I say?

[kessa19]

Your well loved bear reminds me of the Velveteen Rabbit which also reminds me of our journey in therapy/life:

"It doesn't happen all at once," said the Skin Horse. "You become.
It takes a long time...Generally by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand."

[MINIME]

Hey this is funny. I have been struggling with the same issue and wanted to post but was afraid to. LOL. My therapists both have bears and for some reason I got attached to the bear in my reg therapists office, So I began bringing her home. I bring her back and forth to therapy in a bag. I neamed her presebearance after the word preseverance. LOL My therapist says I can have her.

[lauren_helene]

I did bring him but it was pretty uneventful. I didn't know what to expect I guess.

I ended up talking about a recent love interest gone awry. I kind of feel stupid now that I brought the bear in.

Oh well, live aned learn