[DoggyBonz]

Hi,

I am still very new here and this may have already been discussed but I did not see a thread.

I get really nervous about going and leaving therapy. I trust the person I am seeing; he is very accomplished and is known around the world. That being said many of the people I know are like that ( <font color="#000088"> </font> ) but I feel like I don't measure up. I know that most of his patients are very influential I am a major loser.

My lack of accomplishments keeps me from feeling worthy in his office and regardless of the outcome of the session when I leave I get self destructive and upset. It's kinda like a lost exposed feeling. He knows this. I guess I was wondering if anyone has felt that way and what people do?

I usually see him at the end of the day which is good b/c I don't want to deal with people if I am in an off mood.

Any suggestions would be very welcome!

Thanks

[(JD)]

I think that's a good reason to be in therapy Psychologists often help people -successful people- feel that way. Maybe you're misjudging yourself in that you are " a major loser" and just maybe all those "other patients" who you deem very influential, also needed your T's support to be that way? Don't worry about the others, know that your T is there to help you become the best you can be!

The anxiety you experience is pretty normal, btw. Sometimes it takes a while to feel comfortable coming and going. I'm glad you get to go at the end of the day!

TC

[chaotic13]

Well if your line of thinking is that your T is a high profile guy who only sees successful people... Then I guess he sees something successful, influential worthwhile in you because he's choosing to work with you and help you.

What is it that make a person worthy of another's empathy, compassion, and help?

[jacqueline1110]

I agree with the other two comments! Very positive and sounds like you are in a good position to grow with him. But I am curious how do you know about his other patients? I've never known who my other T's patients were till this time, and it wasn't pleasant.

We only had about 5 sessions, he started to make me very uncomfortable. I spoke with him about it and told him I almost didn't come back but he wanted me to come back one more time and see if we couldn't work it out. Instead of validating and working on my issues with the situation, he defended himself by saying HIS clients have Emmy's and one became a milliionaire because of him, and the other came back after one year and even had her other therapist calling him for info. All in all I thought that was sort of tacky and very unprofessional.

So that is why I ask how do you know what that his other patients are all so influential? I've been to quite a few in 20 years and never knew that info before.