I think I need to say sorry

Ok i deleted this post because I dont have the emotional energy to argue with people.

Therapists are people just like you and me.

If you had cancer would you avoid seeing a doctor with cancer?
What if your doctor with cancer recommended chemotherapy for you but used faith healing for themselves. What if you didn't know this? Would it make that doctor less able to help you?

I understand that you want to have complete trust and faith in your therapist but maybe there is no such thing in this world as a perfect person. Maybe, just maybe you have to accept that those who have been in our shoes are probably the best qualified to help us. Maybe if someone is going through a daily struggle, they can really understand what we are going through.

Just maybe.

Maybe it is also possible that someone who is under extreme stress needs to take a break from their job. Maybe. Maybe this stress has nothing to do with their MI. Maybe.

Maybe we need to accept each person as an individual. Maybe.

I just don't think the trigger icon for therapists is appropriate. It seems like a scarlet letter, ya know? I don't mean for this to sound harsh, and I also was upset at some threads, but I have to finally believe that most therapists out there are good, ethical, kind and loving.

Ok i usually can handle these discussions but i have had a hard weekend and I just cant do this. i will just say I guess what triggers me is stupid and i am a selfish person for not wanting to be triggered so that it effects my relationship with my therapist.

I don't think you are stupid, and I don't think I misunderstood.

I think we all need to take care of ourselves in the best way we can.

Peaceout

I dont think I am stupid either. I think that what I said was real and I know other people feel the same. I just dont want to have a "discussion" that goes in circles. I think that when people have to post that they are therapists then they choose to do that. I just wish that I could have a way to know before i read a post that it is from a therapist because for me I have to believe that my therapist is stable so I can trust her. I dont think its fair that i am being triggered by therapists in here.

Minime,

All I am saying is that there is always a chance that we can be triggered by any number of "people."

Some of us can be triggered by others who call themselves parents, therapists, teachers, doctors, lawyers, whatever.

I am sorry that you have been hurt or triggered in this forum. You are surely entitled to your opinion. And I am entitled to mine. I don't think the discussion is going in circles--it's just two sides of a coin, so at any given toss, there's a chance it will land on either side.

Take care

ok.... thanks

MINIME, don't forget to do self-care if you are getting over triggered. You have the option to use the tools here at PC. There is an ignore function which will mean you won't see the body of posts of the member that triggers you.

Go to My Profile, then Edit Ignore List and add the name of the member you wish to ignore.

Minime, I think that it is important for you to talk about your triggers so that you can fully understand them. Triggers are based on emotional memories and current vulnerabilities and if you can understand them you can take away their power. A helpful route for you to take on this might be to examine what you are needing from your therapist right now that this issue seems to be threatening? Maybe what you are needing right now is a stable person whom you can trust since your upbringing wasn't full of these types of people? Each individual that you come into contact with needs to be trusted as it is earned. Has she earned your trust so far? If there are no red lights going off yet it is probably safe to continue to trust her?