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Oct 04, 2008, 02:03 PM

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Originally Posted by pachyderm

Yes, no doubt that is the case. It has been very hard for me to distinguish between what my T does and what my mother did. I think part of this is because there are some real similarities, even though my therapist may not be especially dangerous to me -- at least if I can keep my head.

Earthmama and Pachyderm-- this is what I was thinking. I read the original entry and I immediately thought of projection and transference. I imagine it would be extremely difficult to figure out a particular T's motive for becoming a T unless he told you the actual reason. It sounds like experiences with your mother, combine with prior Ts, may be instrumental in your feelings.

Most importantly, have you spoken to him about this? I would say this all definitely needs to be worked through.

Most therapists practice with the knowledge that it is the clients who are doing the work, and the clients who are making the changes. I would hope that most therapists do not see a client's change as a measure of their own worth as a therapist.

Oct 04, 2008, 02:09 PM

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Originally Posted by earthmama

Hi Pachy...

Just an idea...do you think there is any chance that transference is coming into play here? It seems that you feel like the way your therapist is behaving is mirroring the way your mom behaved. And it may very well be....but that sounds like it also has some really rich transference potential.

Either way, I'm sorry you're having such a hard time...

Quote:

Originally Posted by pachyderm

Yes, no doubt that is the case. It has been very hard for me to distinguish between what my T does and what my mother did. I think part of this is because there are some real similarities, even though my therapist may not be especially dangerous to me -- at least if I can keep my head.

Earthmama and Pachyderm-- this is what I was thinking. I read the original entry and I immediately thought of projection and transference. I imagine it would be extremely difficult to figure out a particular T's motive for becoming a T unless he told you the actual reason. It sounds like experiences with your mother, combine with prior Ts, may be instrumental in your feelings.

Most importantly, have you spoken to him about this? I would say this all definitely needs to be worked through.

Most therapists practice with the knowledge that it is the clients who are doing the work, and the clients who are making the changes. I would hope that most therapists do not see a client's change as a measure of their own worth as a therapist.

pachyderm · Oct 04, 2008, 06:25 PM

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Originally Posted by pinksoil

Most importantly, have you spoken to him about this? I would say this all definitely needs to be worked through.

We're working on it.

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