[del12]

I was wondering if anyone has had their therapist use Byron Katie's "the work" in their therapy. and how did/does it work?

[ECHOES]

No, I haven't heard of that. Can you tell us more about what you know about it?

[del12]

Originally Posted by ECHOES

No, I haven't heard of that. Can you tell us more about what you know about it?

My therapist is currently using it with me and I am really struggling with it. It is a method to supposively relieve you of stressful thoughts by putting it down on paper answering 4 questions and then doing a turn around. It was "invented" by a housewife who was severely depressed and woke up one day with a revelation. She has quite a following.
She does have her own web site which explains this process. I was just wondering if anyone else has ecperienced it in their therapy and if so did it work because I don't think I am getting "it". I am wondering why. I actually went on the web site and asked if someone could help me figure it out, but I never did get a straight answer. Personally I am not comfortable with it and I guess I had better have a discussion with my T about it.

[SpottedOwl]

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I am not familiar with 'The Work', but your post piqued my interest so I did a little reading on the website.

At first glance, it reminds me a lot of the 4th step of 12 step program -- the moral inventory. (Who I resent, why do I resent them, how does it make me feel, and what is my part in this.) I also see some NLP techniques in the 'flipping the statement' concept.

The core idea is to take responsibility for our actions, and to become aware of how our actions/thoughts are impacting our experience. It is about empowering the individual, so we understand we have the power to change our own lives.

I can see how this might be useful, but I also think it might be really overwhelming to deal with all at once. I have often recommended friends do the moral inventory, but I find it easier to break the process down into chunks. First week -- just write out the resentments. Second week -- how do those resentments make you feel. Third week -- what is my part in this.

I would definitely encourage you to talk to your T about this. What part of the process are you uncomfortable with?

[del12]

Originally Posted by SpottedOwl

((del12))

I am not familiar with 'The Work', but your post piqued my interest so I did a little reading on the website.

At first glance, it reminds me a lot of the 4th step of 12 step program -- the moral inventory. (Who I resent, why do I resent them, how does it make me feel, and what is my part in this.) I also see some NLP techniques in the 'flipping the statement' concept.

The core idea is to take responsibility for our actions, and to become aware of how our actions/thoughts are impacting our experience. It is about empowering the individual, so we understand we have the power to change our own lives.

I can see how this might be useful, but I also think it might be really overwhelming to deal with all at once. I have often recommended friends do the moral inventory, but I find it easier to break the process down into chunks. First week -- just write out the resentments. Second week -- how do those resentments make you feel. Third week -- what is my part in this.

I would definitely encourage you to talk to your T about this. What part of the process are you uncomfortable with?

I think what makes me uncomfortable is that my T doesn't really talk about my issues. My T just asks how the week has gone and then is silent until I bring something up which at times I just say something so there isn't that long silence and wasting my $$/time. I get the feeling that it doesn't matter where my issues began just my stressful thoughts. I certainly am not feeling any relief it seems to be a foreever process that my T says that the work should be first and foremost and everything else is secondary. That would be great if I didn't have a life! There doesn't seem to be a balance. The work doesn't always relieve stress it just brings up more stressful thoughts (what they call underlying beliefs. I am stumped.