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Jan 16, 2009, 06:40 PM
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I had a very emotionally difficult session with my therapist today. He said something and we had difficult talking about my not liking it, so I did the borderline thing which I rarely do and left. Usually, I go for a walk, sit in my car and come back. But, I left and on my way home T called and apologized and asked if I wanted to comeback which I did.
I feels so good when someone can take responsibility for their own issues and apologize and tell you that it wasn't your fault. So different than what I am used to happening. I'm tearing up now. However, I still needed to take responsibility by answering the telephone, talking, accepting his apology, coming back, and talking again. I'm exhausted. About an hour commute one way due to traffic; however, it is 20 miles on Los Angeles freeways on a Friday!!...heck on anyday!! Last edited by ClinicallyClueless; Jan 16, 2009 at 06:44 PM. Reason: forgot something |
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Jan 16, 2009, 07:00 PM
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Jan 16, 2009, 08:30 PM
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Jan 16, 2009, 09:53 PM
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I grew up in LA and that was quite a commute you did. I hope you are giving yourself kudo's for taking the phone call and going through the whole process. You can judge it by calling it the borderline thing or look at it as taking care and protecting yourself.
Yippee!!! Sounds like big steps for you and your therapy. |
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Jan 16, 2009, 11:57 PM
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Sounds like it all worked out really well. That's great your T called and invited you to come back. I have a lot of respect for people who take responsibility.
I think you're being kind of hard on yourself with the borderline comment. Why not, "I was really mad so I left"? Or maybe it as an effort to set boundaries: "I won't continue this conversation unless he owns up to his part in what's happened here." I think you did really well.
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Jan 17, 2009, 12:09 AM
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No, it was a borderline personality response...I know the difference, unfortunately. Thank you for the encouragement. He does really good in that department which has been so helpful...I always burst into tears because I always think that it is my fault and continue to try to make it my fault. He make sure that I blame him...I've known him for 23 years and have been in therapy with him for 17, so we know each other well.
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Jan 17, 2009, 12:11 AM
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Thank you. Four hours out today...I was exhausted! I was on the freeway when he called. Thank God I was just before the interchanges.
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Jan 17, 2009, 12:13 AM
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He really is a good therapist, but he has also told me that I have made him a better person. I started seeing him when he had his license three weeks and it is 23 years later. 17 of that in therapy. We have both learned a lot from each other.
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Jan 17, 2009, 03:06 PM
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