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Mar 11, 2009, 07:56 PM
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I just remembered this... and for some reason it seems important. I wish I knew why, but thought I'd share.
When I broke up with my boyfriend... just a few weeks ago now, I wasn't exactly in the best emotional spot. I definitely DIDNT feel like going to therapy! But I went because I thought I ought to whether I felt like going or not (finally my rational side works and outweighs my emotional side sometimes, yay progress?) Anyways... I'm rambling on about how the entire relationship went and how I just wanted someone to give me a hug, tell me that I still had worth, that I wasn't screwed up and that there was hope for another relationship with a better guy somewhere in my future. Scary thing!  She said EXACTLY what I said  and then asked "can I give you a hug?" and when I said yes she did  I have decided that she may be saving my sanity.I don't get to see her until next week, but it's been a good two week break now so I'm happy to go back. So thus I have somewhat learnt that asking for what I want sometimes is okay, and that people can be nice to me and give me what I want sometimes (within reason). It still sucks when I want to manipulate people (I admit I do it, just unconsciously mostly) and they won't give me what I want (it's not like I want "items"... mostly I want affirmations and hugs and generally to get my way. I admit, I'm a control freak). Woah. I wonder if this is what "getting ahold of myself" is like. Like "normalcy" whatever that is? Idk. But I kinda like it!
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Mar 11, 2009, 09:15 PM
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(((((((((((((((((((((((Christina)))))))))))))))))))))
Go, you! Isn't it a good feeling to just ask for what we want and then get it?? That's been the most amazing thing about therapy. I can NEED things? And ASK FOR THEM? And GET THEM?!?!?! It's been really empowering in my life outside of therapy to have that experience with T in the room... Although I did ask him to throw water in my face to help me get regrounded before I left my last session and he said "no" lolol I was like "you NEVER say no to me!!". Humph. I'm happy your therapy is going so well  But I am sorry to hear about your boyfriend... 
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Mar 11, 2009, 11:43 PM
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(((((((Christina))))))
Thats awesome! I'm so happy that you were able to have that experience! In fact, I'll even go so far as to say that you've inspired me to do the same thing!
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Mar 12, 2009, 02:29 PM
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Boy, there is a lot of hugging going on in therapy this week
I'm glad the "ask and ye shall receive" concept worked for you. I hope you can repeat it with other stuff you might want.
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