Hi everyone thanks for the advice from echoes and deli. I am trying very hard to stay my distance and only go 3 times a week to my mothers. I am in the process of finding a new job and give her job to someone else. I am doing a little better since I havent seen much of her this week, but next week I will see her again. I am going to try to do some exercise like walking to get my mind on other things. I saw her today and only stayed for about 20 minutes. I felt better when I left. She told me she would try not to be so demanding. That is what makes me fill with anxiety and stress if I cant do exactly what she wants me to. Every night lately I have to take a muscle relaxer to sleep or I cant sleep, even if I am tired. I talked to my pastors wife and she understands the way I feel, at least I dont feel like I am going to end up in a padded room somewhere. I am trying to limit my time with her because I can deal with things better that way. I want to do the right thing but I am not sure what the right thing is right now. Talking to someone sure makes it easier to let out my feelings I am the type that doesnt talk to many people when I am feeling like I am going out of my mind. This web site sure is very helpful to talk to people and let them give you some advice of what to do. I will be back to my moms on Monday so keep me in your thoughts it is a hard situation to deal with sometimes, especially when there is no one to talk to or to be able to vent out . Thanks again.