[darkrunner]

My T was on vacation last week, and this week her schedule was so packed she couldn't get me in until Thursday!! At 3 PM!!!

She said she usually has cancellation and if she did she would call me to see if I wanted to come in, or if I really needed to see her I should call and she would come in early one day.

Well, the last week was really rough and I REALLY would love to see her before Thursday. I have been waiting for her to call all day today!!!

But......I CAN't BRING MYSELF to call her or email to ask for an appt.
I want to, but I can't

I feel like if I do there will be too much pressure for the T appt - for me to disclose everything that's been going on.....you know, since I *asked* for the extra appointment. And I would really really hate it if she came in early just to see me......too much guilt.

ugh - I don't really know why I am posting this.....
......but it's going to be a long wait until Thursday.

Thursday does feel far away.

It is okay to ask for the appointment just to connect and have support. There is no expectation that you will disclose something you don't want to disclose. Connection and support are two really good and important things about therapy.

You might ask and she might say no, she doesn't have a cancelation. Or you might ask and be able to come in. It is safe to ask, even though it's hard.

[HelloImStevie]

Originally Posted by ktgirl

My T was on vacation last week, and this week her schedule was so packed she couldn't get me in until Thursday!! At 3 PM!!!

She said she usually has cancellation and if she did she would call me to see if I wanted to come in, or if I really needed to see her I should call and she would come in early one day.

Well, the last week was really rough and I REALLY would love to see her before Thursday. I have been waiting for her to call all day today!!!

But......I CAN't BRING MYSELF to call her or email to ask for an appt.
I want to, but I can't

I feel like if I do there will be too much pressure for the T appt - for me to disclose everything that's been going on.....you know, since I *asked* for the extra appointment. And I would really really hate it if she came in early just to see me......too much guilt.

ugh - I don't really know why I am posting this.....
......but it's going to be a long wait until Thursday.

Does your T have an answering service? If she does, then you can just leave a message with them saying you need her to call regarding an appointment. She can have her staff call you to change the appointment time, IF you are nervous about calling her on vacation.

Email is really what I would do, though, because it is not intrusive (she can read and respond on her time) and you can be very clear about needing to get in earlier.

I have been out of therapy for awhile, but I still shoot my old T an email once in awhile...

[Mouse_]

Do you not have times that are just for you? I've had regular slots for 5yrs now and having that is part of the "Holding" process.

[darkrunner]

Hi Mouse,
thanks for your reply.
No - I don't have times just for me - although I guess it would be nice to have this.
I've only been seeing her for about 2 months, and we schedule new appointment times each week - usually for Mondays and Thursdays.

EM - thanks for your reassurance. I know you're right. Last night I wrote an email reminding her about me, but I couldn't send it. I almost sent it, but then didn't. bah. I just don't want to seem like I need her too much.