[Behindthecouch]

Anyone ever waited weeks for T to get back from vacation and then had a totally useless session?

Ok, so I made myself turn up to the session but that was about all that was achieved. Lots of silence, lots of internal dialogue, no progress whatsoever.

Feeling useless but suspecting that I'm not the first one to feel this way. I hate it when I don't have all the answers.

[Brian37]

quite often...even after no vacation...blank stares, dumb looks, and the awkward silence

my inner mind wants her to jump up and turn into Ted Knight and say:

"How bout' a Fresca!"....then rub the hair on my head like a shaggy dog

(Caddyshack reference # 231)

[Behindthecouch]

thanks Brian - I don't know if it was supposed to but it made me smile

lots of dumb looks and blank stares in my world last night .

[sittingatwatersedge]

Originally Posted by Behindthecouch

Anyone ever waited weeks for T to get back from vacation and then had a totally useless session?

I have been thinking about this a good bit, and I wish I could say that I had a real reply but here goes (as far as it goes) in my first 9 months or so, i think they were all pretty much wasted sessions; no trust on my part, no connect between us, i think both of us were miserable. then finally we took a new direction, going into the long ago past, and it seems that even when I think we are doing lousy, there seems to be good going on that I don't recognize, so I apparently can't tell when the time is wasted..........
You are right, after a break is hard though.
Even the usual space between sessions (3-4 wks) is lhard, it feels like break after break. It's hard to carry things that far. but that's the timeframe I have to work with for now.

[SpottedOwl]

(((Behindthecouch)))

Anyone ever waited weeks for T to get back from vacation and then had a totally useless session?

I would like to think that no session is totally useless...but I have experienced the somewhat awkward back-from-vacation-session.

For me, I had spent time during the vacation working on being more independent, and probably subconsciously preparing myself for the possibility that T might not come back.

T did come back, and I spent most of the session trying to prove to him how well I did. Which at the time seemed pretty useless. That strong connection that we had before didn't seem to quite be there. To be fair to myself, T was not totally back from his vacation mentally, so I think it was an adjustment for both of us to be in the room again.

The important thing is that I went, and T and I were able to get back into the routine of therapy together. So, I don't know if it was useless in the long-run, but at the time it did seem rather anti-climactic.