getting close to T

I need some help how I can tell my t that I’m getting close to her. I’ve never got close to any of my T like this, it kind of embarrassing to admit this to her. I talked too a few family members about this and they said it probably because, I’ve never had mother figure . My mom died when I was young and my t she a few yrs older, how do I start discuss this with her

Camel, I told my T I was scared because I was getting to attached and she would refer me or abbandon me and She reminds me that she is not going anywhere and I can see her as long as I want. Your T might start talking about boundries. My T said she can't be my friend and is sorry I didn't have a Mom. She knows that I idolize her.
I left her a message this week saying I am so Lucky to have her as my T. That she helps me see things differently and that I'm so happy she is willing to work with me.
I do think it is important to tell T your feelings about her. Because when/if she ever tells you something you don't want to hear you can be honest with the not so possitive things as well. Which if you are working on changing your thinking I am sure she will challenge your beliefs/thoughts. I think T need to know when you attach so they can feel more comfortable helping you change. If your not attached they sure don't want to tell you negative things to change in fear you wont return. Being attached is healthy.

I think sometimes we get so focused on trying to verbalize and explain and analyze everything in therapy. I sometimes worry that I haven't adequately expressed how grateful I am for the things my T has done for me. But then I look at our interactions and realize... she knows that I am grateful... and attached in my own weird kind of way. Not everything needs to be directly and explicitly expressed in word. You likely have communicated your appreciation via body language, through your willingness to collaborate with her, and your repeated efforts to connect and let her into your little world.

Becoming attached is a good thing--and important and common. It means you feel comfortable enough with that person that you can open up to them; that you respect them; like them. I bet your T recognizes and feels the good connection--it's a two way street. So she probably won't be real surprised.

I also bet that you might not have to say much at all--mine picked up the ball after I said a few things and made it a full-blown discussion. That helped me a lot. Let her know you're nervous about it but that you want to bring up your “attachment.”

I'm happy for you that you have a T relationship going so well--that's the way it's supposed to be. Keep us informed.

If you're worried about saying it - you could write it down.

I haven't told my psychologist anything like that - I think she kind of knows though - I do tell her how awesome she is though.

I struggle with my attachments so I understand how important it is for you to be attached to your T. I am sure your T might already know it and it is certainly a wonderful thing for you.

If you have a need to tell her you can send her an email or write it down. If you start the converstion in person I am sure she will pick up where you leave off if it becomes difficult.

Xtree

Yes talk about it if you can.

I talked to my T about getting close to her and let just say she cried like a baby when i told her about this. she told me most of her clients thinks she pain in the butt and they hate her. she then gave me a hug

Eh? That sounds rather strange.

Wow she should see a therapist about that...:-) Just kidding. Maybe your T has been working really hard to help you get comfortable and try your hand at connecting with someone.

How did it make you feel seeing her so happy that you expressed this?