Finding brother

Hello there,

I am going to vent alittle here if you don't mind. My brother is bipolar 1 and I am bipolar 2. Growing up with my brother was not easy because he was manic a lot of the time and my parents didnt understand what he was going on with him. He got dx bipolar 1 when he was an adult. My brother and parents fought a lot of the time. My brother went 15 years without us seeing him. Then he came back for a few years and then went away again for 4 more years. Now he is 47 and I am 43 . After not seeing him for 4 years , I started looking and just found him. He doesn't want a relationship with my Mom but he wants it with my son, and husband and myself. It is hard to keep our relationship a secret and i know my mom still cares about him. Dad died a few years back. Mom holds alot of anger toward my brother and my brother knows this that is why he keeps his distance.

I am very excited to have found him but I dont want him to run off again. Hard to get close and lose him again. Thanks for letting me vent alittle.

Take care,
Leslie

Thanks want2 and ozzie. Yes i am very excited but I am also not sure why he left us hanging and not knowing where he was for so many years. I asked him on e-mail , I will have to see if he writes me back . If he doesn't I guess that was a short relationship.

Leslie

((((((((((Leslie))))))))))

I'm so happy you've found your brother. I'll spare you my life's details and just say that I've been a somewhat similar situation. It's not an easy thing to have a secret relationship like this. I can say that if you're able to maintain one with your brother, then maybe someday you can help him to have one with your mother. Again, I'm so happy that you've found him. Best wishes and prayers to you and your bro.

Ry

Hello there,

Well I think our relationship was short lived. I wrote him awhile ago and asked him why he wrote a note a few years back and didnt want us in his life any more. I told him I didnt want this to happen again, because it would crush my son and myself if it happened again.
Hmmmmm . Oh well, I wanted to know I guess I asked the wrong question.

Take care,
Leslie

I'm sorry that happened, Leslie. Maybe if you give him time, you can try again.

I sure hope so want2, I love him so very much. I will give him time but I will continue to write even if he doesn't respond.

Thanks for being here,
Leslie

Well some time has past and my brother wrote to me again. I thought I had lost communication with him once again. He was away for awhile and wants me in his life, so I am happy that we are responding again.

Leslie

That's great news, Leslie. And always a good lesson for me to have evidence that patience pays off.

Leslie,

I am so glad for you!!! I wish nothing but the best for you and your future relationship with your brother

( ( ( ( ( Leslie ) ) ) ) )

Much love,
Jenn

Dearest Leslie,

I am so glad you found your brother. I know you're happy and scared at the same time.

Your secret is hard on you and you have so many things swirling around you. I wish you, your husband and child every joy that is possible.

Thank you for sharing this with us. We all adore you.

Hugs,

Jan

wonderful news that your bro wants you in his life. I have a brother not sure where he is. He was abuser but want to put that behind ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,guess better not go on cuz then it would be about me.