How do you get over a relationship when you still have to interact regularly?

<font color="blue"> What do you do when the person you're trying to get over is someone you have to deal with on an almost-daily basis? My ex-boyfriend and I have two daughters whom I have custody of; he is very active in their lives, though. The only way I've been able to get over past relationships is by distancing myself -- figuratively and literally. By having to interact with him, it just keeps dragging things on and on and on -- for example, even though we split up 2-1/2 years ago, we still sleep together on occasion. If I didn't have to interact with him so often, I could fight that temptaion much better and to be able to finally resolve my feelings for him. Any suggestions? </font>

Hi -- I'm the same way. I would suggest not sleeping with him, no matter what as a start.

Any chance you can move someplace further away, to reduce visitation?

Good luck with this. It's a sticky one.

I tell myself over and over and over again that I'm not going to do it anymore....and then my brain goes out to lunch and my body on auto-pilot.

I can't reduce visitation. He's an excellent father, and, of course, our daughers are both "Daddy's girls." I would rather deal with the emotional pain and confusion of not being able to entirely let go than to take away their times together.

I would also suggest meeting him in a public place. It's harder to do things you don't want to do in the parking lot at Wal-Mart. If that still doesn't work, perhaps find another person to drop your kids off. Have an aunt or uncle or cousin or friend drop them off and/or pick them up.

You have to stop sleeping with him. This would be the first step. I think it is very important for the kids sake that you maintain a friendly relationship with their father. As posted above, meeting in a public place or something like that is a good start.
Let me ask you this. Is there a chance you guys might want to get back together? I was just wondering. if you still have feelings for eachother and sleeping together is part of the equation I'm wondering if he has feelings for you as well.

you are split up and yet sleep together? Have to wonder from you and him what is up with that?!? exciting, yes. Connecting? What is still there?

advice: stop &*$% ing him, you have custody, go to court and be done.
simple!!!