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Jun 02, 2009, 11:14 AM
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I am engaged to a wonderful man, he is a star but the atlantic separates us for now. We met on a Social Anxiety Site about two and a half years ago. I was nearing the end of a 20 year marriage at the time and as a friend he was there for me during the devastation. After i had separated from my husband and there was no chance we would get back together ~ i started to think that maybe i felt more for this friend, then his appendix burst, when i realised there was a chance i could lose him, it hit me like a ton a bricks!
Never imagined that i would fall in love again or so quickly but this feels so right. He understands me in a lot of ways and what he doesnt understand hes not afraid to find out about and accept. There are many obstacles in our way, not least the distance, but together we will be ~ eventually. Never say never ~ because you never know what life has in store for you!
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Jun 04, 2009, 03:37 PM
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I don't want to put a damper on your love, just be careful. I met a man on a dating website. We e-mailed, snail mailed, and called each other for over 2 years. I flew down to spend time with him, and he flew to spend time with me. For Christmas that second year he gave me a ring. Then I moved down to where he lived and the bottom fell out.
He wanted a distance relationship (probably so he could tell his friends he had a girlfriend) but not a real one. He never told his friends it was a promise ring so when I met them in person, they asked how he proposed to me. Talk about an ackward situation!?! After only 4 months of living in the same city I got the "let's just be friends" speech. We could exchange multiple e-mails in a day, but we couldn't live in the same city with me. I'm not saying it WON'T work, just letting you know to be cautious. Distance love can be exhilirating, but make sure that feeling is still there when you are in the same place as well. |
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Jun 04, 2009, 06:47 PM
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Jun 05, 2009, 11:05 AM
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It sounded like you knew what you were getting into, sometimes I get in "mother hen" mode. We seemed to be getting along fine through the distance, but when we were faced with actually being with each other it didnt' work. Neither of us had been married before and that was part of the problem. I'm not going to get into details, but he wanted a girlfriend, not a wife but that didn't come to light until I had moved 3,000 miles to his town.
The man I married I also met on the internet, but when we met in person it was different. We were soon married and are still happily ever after - for the most part. Guess what I'm saying is just be sure you can live together as well as you have been able to live apart. |
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Jun 05, 2009, 01:24 PM
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Thank you, "mother hen" mode is fine lol, i do it too!
I am glad you later met someone who makes you happy, it makes no difference where you met, the simple fact is you did and you fell in love and after all thats all that really matters. Be happy
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