[BamaSurvivor]

I went from having no one interested in me to having at least two people interested in me within a matter of a week. lol Anyway, here's the new situation...

About 9 months ago, I was with this guy Jason. We hit it off really well and spent a lot of time together but still took time for ourselves. When things started getting a little serious, he said he was moving to Colorado so we couldn't be together anymore. Yet, he never left. He's still here in Alabama... anyway, I left him alone because I figured that's what he wanted, but a few days ago he left me an away message saying, "wanna go swimming?"... That's deep to me because we used to go swimming after midnight during the summer and then lay on the pavement and watch the stars together. So then he calls me yesterday and explains everything to me.

He said that he paniced and that's why he came up with such a lame excuse for us to break up. Jason said that he was used to the player lifestyle... Dating any and everybody without getting attached. His feelings started growing for me and he was finally getting attached to me and it scared him, so he ran as far as he could from it. He said with all this time he's had time to think and he misses me a lot and isn't scared of a relationship anymore and wants to try to start over with me.

Have any of you ever experianced this? Got scared of a real relationship or real feelings, so you run with a lame excuse, but later come back to want that person again? Do you think it's worth the shot to try this relationship again? I think it may be. He seems sincere.

[stew099]

honestly, that's just a players line. i know because i've used it lol. him saying that probably made you feel "special" just what a player does. maybe he is sincere and does truly want to be with you alone. give it a shot but be careful.

[BamaSurvivor]

The only reason I figure it's different than a line is because he's had a lot of women from what I understand... And after 9 months, he still remembers A LOT of details of our relationship, even my scent, my favorite song, everything... That's kinda unusual for a player, isn't it?

I think it is Bama. I only have two bits of advise to offer. First, follow your hurt. If it tells you to start again then go for it. Sencond is to be careful. Don't let yourself get overly attached just in case he is trying to be a player.

Ry

[BamaSurvivor]

thanks Ryan.

Talked to him this morning again and he wanted to call on his break to say good morning. That was sweet. Did I already mention that? tehe

Wow, you're bout as giddy as a school girl. Just be careful and take care of yourself.

Ry

[BamaSurvivor]

I've been giddy, believe it or not. lol Almost four days now, he didn't call until 2 days ago. So I'm actually just giddy on my own this time... Feels... different! lol

[jmo531]

Bama,
I think that following your heart is best but be guarded. I think that alot of men get scared of committment and run when things get to deep. Men arnt very good at lying either, hence the lame excuse. I say go for it. You seem to be very happy since he has come back and everyone deserves happiness. Be careful but have fun.

Take care...and do keep us posted

[BamaSurvivor]

Yes, I'm having to learn to walk with one foot in front of the other instead of jumping straight in, you know? I'm doing good so far...

This is what I love about this place so much. You ask for advice, and even when you don't get the advice you want (lol), it's what you usually need and is rarely ever rude. Thanks y'all! (((huggz)))

(((((((((((((((Bama)))))))))))))))

[BamaSurvivor]

UPDATE:

Jason and me are going to the movies tomorrow evening after he gets off of work. He's gonna come down here and we're gonna talk and work things out and head to the movies and to dinner. So I guess it's a date!