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#1
Nov 06, 2009, 05:30 AM
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Tell you they love you and then take it back SHORTLY thereafter?
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"....I've been treated so long as if I'm becoming untouchable. I'm a slow dying flower, in the frost killing hour, the sweet turning sour & untouchable....(portion omitted)....Do you remember the way that you touched me before, all the trembling sweetness I loved and adored? Your face saving promises whispered like prayers- I don't need them."- My Skin by Natalie Merchant. “The fishermen know that the sea is dangerous and the storm terrible, but they have never found these dangers sufficient reason for remaining ashore.”- Vincent Van Gogh ""Don't talk of worlds that never were. The end is all that's ever true."- Burn by the Cure "In the end only kindness matters."- Hands by Jewel Dragons-please click so they hatch and live!    
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Nov 06, 2009, 06:45 AM
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There are a few...
Regards ZILCH HOUR |
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Nov 06, 2009, 07:00 AM
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Thanks, Zilch.
I had something like this happen to me. I don't understand it. I know some people will lie and say they love you to get something out of you, but usually they don't take their words back so quickly. The person who did this to me (well, something similar) isn't the type of person to lie about something like this either, and I don't think they did it to gain anything. What do I expect out of people, anyway?
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"....I've been treated so long as if I'm becoming untouchable. I'm a slow dying flower, in the frost killing hour, the sweet turning sour & untouchable....(portion omitted)....Do you remember the way that you touched me before, all the trembling sweetness I loved and adored? Your face saving promises whispered like prayers- I don't need them."- My Skin by Natalie Merchant. “The fishermen know that the sea is dangerous and the storm terrible, but they have never found these dangers sufficient reason for remaining ashore.”- Vincent Van Gogh ""Don't talk of worlds that never were. The end is all that's ever true."- Burn by the Cure "In the end only kindness matters."- Hands by Jewel Dragons-please click so they hatch and live!
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Nov 06, 2009, 07:55 AM
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Some people use emotions to manipulate, hopefully this isn't the case with what happened to you. And some people become afraid when they reveal their feelings. We become very vulnerable when we admit love of another. Maybe the person was scared?
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Nov 06, 2009, 08:46 AM
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I agree to perpetuallysad's point of view. This might be the case with the person. But there can be other possibilities. The funny thing with behaviours and attitudes is that you cannot be definite or certain even if you feel like it, as these are the marks of waves on sand and change with every tide. If we complain or try to make the other person realise that he/she was mean or selfish or any other ill-motive, he/she will reply that you felt this way, I am clean and all right, it is only uor self created weired feeling.
So I have learnt ( still learning as new lesson in a new way) that it is better to either scrutinize or filter these people using my past experiences or do the favour to them just for the sake of nothing and not to expect anything in return. Regards ZILCH HOUR |
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Nov 06, 2009, 08:50 AM
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PerpetuallySad,
Thank you for your advice and well wishing. I don't think he's the type of person to lie to me about his feelings in order to manipulate me, generally speaking, but you never can tell about people. Yet, I don't feel he ever led me on about the way he felt about me, or the way he expected to feel about me. That is why it's so confusing. Plus, he didn't need to lie me. I had made it clear that he didn't need to say he loved me. He didn't exactly say it, but it was darn close. He pretty much said he thought he loved me and that alone was something he wouldn't take lightly, in my opinion. To me, if he said that, he must have really been asking himself, "Am I falling in love with her?" And he must have thought, that it was very possibly a yes. The way you do when you're just starting to fall and you catch yourself and think, "Oh, crap do I love them?" and then you start answering, "I think...maybe....it's a yes..." until finally you know it's a yes and you don't even ask anymore. I felt like I had fallen in love with this person, and I didn't expect to hear it back from him, but I WANTED to hear it. Wanted it to be true. I didn't expect him to ever say he loved me. Then he practically said it. I never expected to hear that, either. And then to feel like....he never really felt it and I'll never hear it again. Well, I'm hurt. He took it back awhile ago- it's still pretty fresh, but it's been a few months- but it's in my head this morning. I've never had someone retract it soon afterwards like that. Never had someone say they thought they'd never felt it after they said they thought they did. What do I ever expect from relationships or people, though? From myself, or anyone else? I should have known he didn't mean it, better than he knew. I'm upset. 
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"....I've been treated so long as if I'm becoming untouchable. I'm a slow dying flower, in the frost killing hour, the sweet turning sour & untouchable....(portion omitted)....Do you remember the way that you touched me before, all the trembling sweetness I loved and adored? Your face saving promises whispered like prayers- I don't need them."- My Skin by Natalie Merchant. “The fishermen know that the sea is dangerous and the storm terrible, but they have never found these dangers sufficient reason for remaining ashore.”- Vincent Van Gogh ""Don't talk of worlds that never were. The end is all that's ever true."- Burn by the Cure "In the end only kindness matters."- Hands by Jewel Dragons-please click so they hatch and live!
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Nov 06, 2009, 10:49 AM
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It's the love; cure of all ailments, cause of all ailments.
Just wish you peace. Regards ZILCH HOUR |
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Nov 06, 2009, 12:10 PM
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No but i did have people who told me they loved me and then BEHAVE like they`re taking it back ....i don`t know if thats any better...
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Nov 06, 2009, 12:48 PM
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Quote:
But I did come to understand later, that the gift was never given,,for they did not have it to give. We must first Love ourselves before we can truly Love another... I hope you find some Peace...  Lenny
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I have only one conclusion,,and that is things change too quickly for me to draw them.... Sobriety date...Halloween 1989. I was plucked from hell...and treat this gift as if it is the only one... |
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#10
Nov 09, 2009, 08:11 PM
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((((((((((Locust)))))))))))
 Yes, yes, and YES. I've had it happen to me. Twice. With the same guy. What's that saying? "Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me..." Needless to say, I got a reality check and he's out of my life for good. I'm sorry you had to go through that. It's rough. Just wanted to let you know I understand how awful that feels and my thoughts are with you. Sending lots of hugs.
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Rebecca "If you're going through hell -- keep going." - Winston Churchill It's better to live your own destiny imperfectly than to live an imitation of somebody else's life with perfection. - Elizabeth Gilbert Bring on the wonder, we got it all wrong, we pushed you down deep in our souls, so hang on. Bring on the wonder, bring on the song, I pushed you down deep in my soul for too long. - Susan Enan http://igetupagain.wordpress.com/ |
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Nov 10, 2009, 02:19 AM
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Something that happened for once will never occur again.
But something that has happened twice, will happen for a third time. An Arabic saying as quoted by Paulo Coelho in the Alchemist. Regards ZILCH HOUR |
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