[kristine88]

I have known and been good friends with my boyfriend for 5 years and we have been dating exclusively for almost 10 months. We recently broke up and have gotten back together. My parents and family got involved in the break up and things were blown way out of proportion and they are now against me being with him.
This is a really stressful situation for me and my boyfriend. My parents have only heard half of the story behind all of the drama and they refuse to listen to rest and they refuse to give him a second chance. My parents want me to go see a counselor and my boyfriend is freaking out about it. He thinks that it’s my dad’s way of controlling me from afar. He thinks that it’s just going to cause problems. We are perfectly happy and don’t fight until something comes up with my family. He says he is genuinely happy with me and our relationship until I start doing what others tell me to do. “Everything is so good then you let people meddle and things go downhill.” The problem is, I don’t feel comfortable telling my parents to get out of my life. I don’t know if that is a bad thing or not.
I am going crazy! I feel torn, I want everyone to just get along and I’m sick of hearing from my boyfriend that my family is crazy and I’m sick of hearing from my family that my boyfriend is crazy. I’m 21 years old, I feel like I can make decisions on my own and I feel like no else thinks I can.
If I don’t go to a counselor then my parents will be mad at me and if I do go my boyfriend will be mad at me and we will probably end up fighting constantly about it. I don’t know what to do, I feel like I have lost control of the situation and I don’t even know what I want anymore.
I’m guess I’m looking for advice on how to handle my parents, I don’t want to push them out of my life and I would like them to give my boyfriend a second chance. Also, should I go through with my appointment with a counselor or not?

I dont think anyone has the right to make you go for councelling as you are 21 ! Have you tried saying calmly to your parents that you have thought about it and decided NOT to go.

If you say it in a firm voice and then walk away they may get the point which is that you are now an adult.