[ceciel]

oke, this was my first boyfriend. We met at college and he was the first boy I kissed en had sex with. I wanted to wait for some one that I thought was special and he was.
He is in the same group of friends as I am in college. At the beginning this was a very positive thing. This is how he got to know me an I hem. He knew everything about me and I about him before we even were a couple. After 3 months of flirting and stuff he finely ‘dared’ to kiss me because he also knew I never kissed someone so (and I quote) “ I wanted to make shure I really liked you and wanted to know if this would go somewhere.”
Our relationship only lasted for 3 month but it felt for so much longer and it felt so right.
But now 2 months later I’m still very upset. At the first month I had to see him because he is in the same group of friends as I am and in de same classes. But now (just a week ago) started a vacation and it will last for 6 weeks. I thought I would be able to forget him now I don’t see him every day but is still hard. I look at his facebook page and if I see a new girl on it, I immediately check if she is single if she is I get so upset! I feel so stupid! I know because we are in de same group of friends I eventually will see him with another girl. But how things are looking I don’t think I will ever get over him. True, he was my first well… everything. Our real relationship only lasted for about 2 months before he called it quits. I must say the last 2 weeks he became a bit distant with me but I thought it was just because he had some very very big problems (he wouldn’t tell me what). But I hoped that when his problems where over every thing would return back to normal. But it didn’t
I hope someone can help me get over him, please!

[gimmeice]

Hello ceciel, it's nice to meet you, welcome to psych central.
My advice is to give this time, it's going to be harder since you guys have the same friends but in time things will get easier. If I were you I would stop checking his facebook page, I think it is keeping him and your relationship fresh in mind. Try treating yourself good by doing things that you enjoy.

[sweetypie]

hey ceciel, welcome to PC

i am new here, but i am not new in relationships.
the situation you are in, is difficult, and i know it is painful.

i understand you feel compelled to check his facebook (who has NOT done that, ok now, everyone, 'fess up. . .) we've ALL done that honey. but it would truly be a good idea if you could stop looking at it. as far as your mutual friends go, try to steer them away from the subject, if possible.

you have already been given advice to 'treat yourself' to things you enjoy right now. that is very sound advice. finding distractions is invaluable.

i feel so sorry that you have to go through this; when we reach out to others and make ourselves vulnerable and available to love, we do take a risk of being hurt. you were very courageous to open yourself up to love. it's very positive. but now, do something equally positive, and take some good care of yourself. x