[william1971]

I've been seeing my current girlfriend for the past 2-3 months now. When I got involved with her she told me she had an ex that she kept in touch with but their relationship was very unhealthy. As we got serious she told me she had a talk with him and told him that she was seeing someone and that she didn't want to stay in touch with him anymore. Apparently he was upset about this but I left it at that.

Come to find out the other day he sent her texts on her cell asking her to get back with him and wanting us to split up. She told me she never responded to those texts. This made me feel awkward and angry. We had a talk about it and she assured me she doesn't want to be with him. I told her that I will trust what she's telling me is true and left it at that.

Now, I can't help to feel nervous & worried about this situation since it happened. I catch myself wishing things would go back to how they were before this incident of the texts. It's hard for me to trust people in the first place, but now I'm having to deal with this situation and trust that nothings going on with them or that one day she won't say "OK, I'm going back with my ex". I don't want to worry all the time about this or her. What do I do? Is it possible to get back to normal?

[jerrymichele]

I would ask her to change her phone number. Thats my opinion.

[william1971]

Originally Posted by jerrymichele

I would ask her to change her phone number. Thats my opinion.

Yeah, she mentioned changing her number in the beginning but I don't think she's going to do it. I think she may have just said that to make me feel better. I guess we'll see how it goes....

She did the best thin in the given situation, ie ignore him.

Nothing else she could do, as to respond in any way would of started a conversation with him which is what he wants.

You will have to start trusting her. Or you can push her into his arms by keeping on mentioning it.

[william1971]

Originally Posted by Tishie

She did the best thin in the given situation, ie ignore him.

Nothing else she could do, as to respond in any way would of started a conversation with him which is what he wants.

You will have to start trusting her. Or you can push her into his arms by keeping on mentioning it.

Thanks Tishie for the feedback. I know she probably did the only thing she could do which is ignore them but I just cant help to feel nervous about the whole thing. I mean they were together for 4 years and us only 3 months, but she seems very loving with me and wants to spend time with me......

I guess I'll just have to wait and see! Wish me luck!

[amy83]

I too have felt the same way at times about my bf. He was with his ex gf for three years and they lived together and all that. She moved across the country. But i felt like well what happens if she decides to come back.... But then you just have to hope that you can trust what they tell you. I would think that since she was open with it from the beginning that it probably is what she says. If she didn't want you to know she wouldn't tell you about it.
Good Luck. I understand how hard it is to trust people i have the same issues!!