[Jenn1fer82]

I'm real upset with my bf for not being able to put his feeling aside when I was put in a uncomfortable situation. Let me know if I'm just asking too much from my bf.

I'm staying the night at his place while he's out with his friends playing air soft bb gun shooting and wouldn't be back until the very next morning. I didn't mind at all staying here, I wanted to. Well the sister's bf came home and the place soon smelled like weed. Its happended before and I've told my bf how uncomfortable I feel about that stuff so they had a house meeting and the drugs weren't suppose to come back. Well my instant reaction is to leave and the one person I thought about calling is the one friend my bf doesn't like and someone that I had decided to distance myself from. I had a feeling my bf wouldn't like me calling this friend but all I wanted was to leave here. I ended up staying anyway bc my bf was upset. The reason why I decided to distance myself from this old friend was bc this friend still wouldn't move on and liked me still. He continued to make moves towards me during the time when my bf and I were having problems. I started to feel uncomfortable. My bf knew this friend still liked me and didn't feel comfortable with that either.

I just wished my bf would have been able to put his feelings aside and just see that I'm uncomfortable and just wanted to leave from here. It wasn't like I was going to be friends with the guy again. I felt my bf was real selfish.

[Pomegranate]

I don't think your bf was being selfish. He does not have control over what other people do, if someone decides to break the house rules and your bf isn't there, it's not his fault.

If you know people in that house use drugs and you are uncomfortable with that then you should just stay away from the house. If the police came and found drugs there while you were there, you'd be in trouble too, even if you didn't do any drugs.

Calling that old friend when you know he has a hard time letting go of you is not a good idea. You should try hard to think of someone else to call, a girlfriend would be much better.

[AAAAA]

Pomegranate had some very good points there. I’ve given this a bit of thought since the other thread. I can understand why both you and your boyfriend were upset but something’s been bothering me. It seems that you’re being unkind to the other guy. You have no interest in a relationship with him, but still contact him when you need something. I can see how this would be troublesome in your current relationship.