[BabyCakesHunt]

srry i sumhow posted that without finishing it lol

ok back to his family...they do not understand the phsyical amd mental pain he is constantly in.they just say"u gotta get a job" and" i worked with worse than that y cant u?" they r very selfish and it has to be all about themand they always want things of him wehen he is so needy and uncapable of so much.but.......he feels the need to call them everyday(there is 4 family members im talki8n about) sumtimes 2 or three times a day as well as talkin on the computer on n off all day.it hurts sooo much to see him reach out 4 their support and basicaly get rejected over n over.but all he says when i say i wish he wouldnt subject himself to that so many times every day is "but they r family'. i try n tell him thats even more of a reason not to call them all so often....just cuz they r family dont give them the right to treat him so bad, i8n fact its the opposite....becuz they r his family they should be more caring and supportative...not selfish as they r.
my family does me the same but i do not go lookin 4 the disrespect n hurt over n over every day.i talk to them as little as possible.
i have suggested maybe only callin each of them a few times a week( thats still alotta caLls to 4 people) but he thinks im tryin to be controlling and im jealous of his family.

just a few examples of his family values......a few years ago (be4 me) he came home to find his brother in bed with his girlfriend!!! his family still wants him to accept his brother cuz they r "family" and constantly ask him if hes talked to his brother and u should call ur brother...hmmmm

also.....his sister has a website she belongs to where u can post pictures.she has several albums titled "family"....she has posted picture of his exwife and his brother and his ex girlfriend but has not 1 picture of me or him n I 2gether.....when i asked him about it he said he never really noticed n says hes not bothered by it.but this is a huge insult to me i feel, and again he says in jealous of his family n want him to cut himself off from them.

this is sooo far from the truth.

i really dont know what to say or do anymore.i get sooo upset and angry and he sees it as controlling and jealous......and with 1200 miles between us its so hard to deal with (on both sides) . we r constantly fighting and arguing that i feel the miles r gettin even greater between us. i know we need couples counselling but the is not an option with the distance.....

PLEASE HELP WITH ANY SUGGESTION !!!! i feel i am losing everything !!( my mind included)

Personnaly I would back off.....

My hubby has had in the past problems with his family but that is just as its said HIS FAMILY. He can do as he pleases with them as long as they are not hurting me (and not posting a pic of me and him on face book or whatever dont count in my book) then all is fine as its his problem not mine.

He is a big person now and able to cope with them in his own way if not and he asks for help then fine but not asking for help is a big sign to me for me to back off and remain silent on the matter.

[jerrymichele]

I agree with Tishie on this, it's his problem. If he starts complaining then I would say that i don't want to hear about it. And even though your feelings are hurt about the pictures, I would just look at it like she looks like the fool.