[Numbers]

Hi

I'm not sure how to explain this properly, but I will do my best. When people leave I never miss them, it's like I just let go very easily, because I don't really think about them when they're not there. But that's not the problem - when somebody returns I get really angry with them. Of course I don't tell them this, but if somebody returns from a holiday for instance, and they are happy to see me, inside I get really mad at them and don't know how to react. Why does this happen? and does anyone have any ideas how I can make it stop? I really want to be happy to see them and welcoming and I try, but it hurts because I'm so angry inside.

Numbers

[Peppermint_Patty]

Hi Numbers

Originally Posted by Numbers

Hi
I'm not sure how to explain this properly, but I will do my best. When people leave I never miss them, it's like I just let go very easily, because I don't really think about them when they're not there. But that's not the problem - when somebody returns I get really angry with them. Of course I don't tell them this, but if somebody returns from a holiday for instance, and they are happy to see me, inside I get really mad at them and don't know how to react. Why does this happen? and does anyone have any ideas how I can make it stop? I really want to be happy to see them and welcoming and I try, but it hurts because I'm so angry inside.
Numbers

It's possible that you are experiencing sort of a delayed reaction to their leaving. Rather than getting angry when they leave.. your anger over their leaving manifests itself later when they return.

Sometimes when I am feeling angry or experiencing some other negative emotion, I write about it in my journal and try to get to the reason as to why I feel that way.

One method of journal writing that I find extremely useful for anger management is to write an entry to that person as if you were actually speaking to them.

Except in this case... because no one can see your journal but you... tell them how you really, really feel and why you are so angry with them.

Curse them out if you feel like it!

But anyway... when you are finished writing... read over what you have written and it may give you some insight as to why you are angry and what you can do to get it under control.

I think journal writing is a wonderful tool to understanding oneself and figuring out life in general. It certainly helps in making one more objective and introspective... rather than being overly emotional and prone to impulsive actions.

Anyway good luck to you.

Peppermint

[Numbers]

Thank u peppermint. I keep a diary as it is, but never thought of writing it as if I was writing to the person I was angry at, but sounds like a really good idea that I will definetly try out thanks again!