[bridgie]

I have this guy whom I may start dating soon we've been talking for a month and have a date set for when I return from vacation we were talking last night and he said his last girl was bipolar and he cldnt date another one well I am bipolar and now I'm afraid to tell him I'd rather not and just have him go through life with me and when I finally go up or down tell him. I dnt have to say anything up front do I. Can't he get to know me first before I throw it out their that I may be a ltl off at times. I dnt want to scare him off I like him but I dnt want to hide something like that either

((((bridgie))) I would be honest with him. You are not the other girl. You are a totally differnt person. imo he will respect you for being honest.

[Pomegranate]

I agree with muffy, you should be honest with him. Honesty is the basis of a good relationship. He's brought it up already and said what he did, so it's obviously important to him. Waiting will make you look deceitful and also could be harder on you - the longer you wait & let the relationship develop - if he really does not want to be with someone who is bipolar.

[babydoll233]

Good Morning! I would be honest with him, if he does not want to pursue it, then his loss, no sense keeping something from him before ever meeting him, honesty is the best policy, all of the time, good luck!

[thaboyfriend]

I'm a guy, and i've dated my share of ladies with issues. I put up the post "my girlfriend cheated on me". But to answer you question, yes tell him! Dealing with a lady with issues is hard, but some men are able to deal with it. If hes not, your just asking for more issues. Some men are not mature enough to deal with the ups and downs of bipolerism. If hes not, its not going to be a healthy relationship and that would be waisting yous and his time, and life is to short for that. Be honest with him and let the chips fall where they may. In the end you'll be glad you did. Nobody wants to be in a relationship that has no future. If you start your relationship off with secrets, thats what you can expect down the road, more lies and secrets. If you dont tell him, trust me he'll be able to pick up on it anyway, and the fact that you hid it from him is going to make it hard for him to trust you down the road.

[jerrymichele]

I agree with everyone else on here. Tell him, and if he can't take you for the person you are, then you don't need him anyway. I would let him know that just because he had one bad apple doesn't mean everyone else is a bad apple.

I, too, think you should be honest with him. Could you practice what you want to say on someone? I wish you well! Take care.

[Naturefreak]

I just had to get in on this one. Everyone says be honest . I agree
100% . I posted a profile on a dating site and pretty much told
my life story except for the color of my underwear. Well I got
replies and was advised by a few women not to discuss my personal
health issues until I got to know them better. I figured being honest
was the best way to go about it. For that's me . I am honest.
So I took their advice and posted a new profile (without my health
issues) and I'm getting alot more views . The thing is , I still have
to tell them . Whether it's now or a few months down the road.
I'd prefer now . Just seems to scare most women away.
Don't really know what's the best way to go about it.
I would certainly date a woman with mental health issues.
Don't have a problem with that at all. Suxs to be me.

[bridgie]

On my profile on the site we met on. I didn't go all out and say I was bipolar but I did say I was a ltl crazy. You all are so right. I need to say something. I've already said I have a temper and yell a lot but not that I go low. The tempr part he said he didn't mind. And he's already caught a ltl of the eccentricities. Ill tell him I just dnt know how or when the best time. Is that a first date thing. Lol I dnt know. I know I need to say something. Just afraid

[marjan]

Originally Posted by bridgie

On my profile on the site we met on. I didn't go all out and say I was bipolar but I did say I was a ltl crazy. You all are so right. I need to say something. I've already said I have a temper and yell a lot but not that I go low. The tempr part he said he didn't mind. And he's already caught a ltl of the eccentricities. Ill tell him I just dnt know how or when the best time. Is that a first date thing. Lol I dnt know. I know I need to say something. Just afraid

I agree with others for being honest, but I would suggest to go for the first date and then tell him....he still doesn't know you, so I think before first date is little too early to throw too much information at him, but you should tell him within couple of first dates....you don't want to get attached to him and then he polls out....if it's difficult to tell him directly, you can just email him....I would wait for couple of dates first and then I tell him...you don't know even if you like this guy to go for more than one date, so why to bother to tell him now!

with love
marjan

[bridgie]

Thanx marjan. I think I'm getting ahead of myself. I think ill give it a few dates and go from there. I'm just not gonna worry abt it. I'm gonna go with the flow try not to get all worked up